People whose husband and wife are at odds are prone to everything going wrong. Why? If your family is at odds, you must be depressed and making money must be hard.

You see, the starting point of Eastern wisdom is self-improvement. The starting point of happiness is oneself. Find it from within and find it in yourself. Starting from being at peace with yourself, use the kindness in your nature to make peace with your husband and wife, your parents, your children, and then expand to the outer circle to be in harmony with your relatives, your friends, your country, and the heaven and earth, just like a circle. Like ripples, your kindness keeps expanding

Why should we first understand the level of our own thoughts? Because most modern people do not understand their own thoughts and follow their thoughts in confusion all day long. Sometimes, various thoughts are fighting every day, and they cannot even live in harmony with themselves.

Be at odds with yourself. Those who are out of harmony will not be able to seek blessings.

Whether your life goes well or not depends on one thing: whether your nature is the master or your temperament is the master.

If you learn how to do it, you have to start observing every thought you have: Am I doing things by nature, instinct, or habit?

Evil thoughts will bring you a lot of trouble, sorrow, and resentment

When our thoughts about nature are relatively strong, if you interact with the other person and can bring out the other person's nature, you will be a good teacher and helpful friend. How can we, as people, work together to achieve success? In fact, we only need to bring out each other’s nature

Our ancients said that a wife can support her husband and educate their children. How can we support our husbands and educate our children? We need to help our husbands develop their nature and educate their children to develop their nature. This is the only thing we need to do.

Only by knowing how to observe thoughts can we control them

I met a lady who was carrying an LV bag and said: "Oh, this is LV." I said: "What's wrong?" She said: "It can't be worn anymore, I want to put it high." You Look, she mistakenly regarded the bag as the leader of her life, and completely based her heart on the items. Some people mistake their clothes for themselves.

First, Yan Xiao. This is the simplest way to always give the elderly a good look. Don't spend a little money on the elderly to make them cry every day. Outside, no matter how much conflict there is between husband and wife, don’t pass it on to the four old people.

Second, listen to filial piety. My parents are old and lonely. When they see you, they want to say something that happened a long time ago. Just stand there and listen. What's so difficult about that? Isn't it? Who else can they talk to but you?

Third, be obedient and filial. Both parents have a lifelong personality and lifestyle habits. If they don't want to live together, just ask them to change this or that. Let me tell you, you are sick, not him

If you don’t understand this truth, you always have to control the elderly and treat them in the way you think is best. If you don’t follow the elderly, it will cause pain to ourselves and our families.

Fourth, practice filial piety. Be filial in your behavior. When you think of filial piety in your heart, you act immediately. It is very necessary to serve meals to parents, wash their feet, cook their favorite food, and accompany them on trips.

Fifth, kindness and filial piety. To truly know the kindness of your parents. When we blame our parents, we should quickly think of a thought in our mind - did you give birth to them, or did they give birth to you? If you want to give birth to them, you can blame them; if they want to give birth to you, you are not qualified. say them

First, the care of parents is to make parents worry-free, feel at ease, and nourish their hearts. Second, the ambition of raising parents and honoring the ancestors. Third, being a foster parent gives them something to rely on when they grow old. Fourth, foster the spirit of parents and let them develop wisdom

Not to mention foreign objects, is our hair our own? No. We often see bald spots. The hair that was full before baldness is gone in the end. It is not yours and you only have the right to use it. no ownership

You have not grasped this degree well. It is your duty to take care of your mother, but it is not your duty to take care of your brothers. Brothers and sisters are family ties. They can help you in emergencies, but you cannot help the poor. His family is sick, and you can help his children go to school. But you can't support people for a lifetime

A virtuous man is a superior man who has ability but no temper; an average husband is capable but has a temper; an inferior husband has a temper but no ability.

Women should turn themselves into soft water, virtuous water, pure water, and nourishing water. Don't turn yourself into floods, boiling water, scalding water, beauty and disaster water

The ancients required women to be virtuous during pregnancy: to have straight eyes and not look evil, not to speak evil words, to behave well, and to be grateful. After the child is born, it will definitely be easy for him to be stable.

As old people, we want to protect our children when they are young. How to protect them? Let them not be evil but righteous, not irritable but calm, not evil but good. This is what you protect. If you make your children irritable, irritable, filial, or do evil, you are not protecting them well.

My attitude towards my children has always been: as long as they do not break the law and have no moral problems, I should let them develop as much as possible. They are independent beings. Parents should focus on morality and work hard on their children so that they understand the rules and do not violate laws and disciplines or violate ethics and morals. This is where we should work hard.

The kind of person you want your child to be is the kind of parent you must be.

People are emotional creatures. If a child can spend time with his parents when he is young, the child will not have violent tendencies in the future.

After I finished my work and went downstairs, I saw the leader, and I said to him: "I have never seen the two identities of leader and boss, only friends and elders." The leader asked why? I said: " Bosses easily go bankrupt, and leaders easily retire. These two identities are not permanent in one person. Friends and elders are different. Friends will not change in their lifetime, and elders will not retire in their lifetime. "So we interact with and get along with others. You can’t just care about your possessions and status. These halos will not surround you for life. Don’t let money blind us to our kindness and compassion.

I also met a boss, and I said: "What will you do when your relatives come?" He said: "When your relatives come, cook a meal at home and save money at home." I said: "Then you often socialize outside." He said He said: "That's a dinner treat. They are all bosses and leaders, and they want to have connections." To outsiders, we flatter and flatter others. He is not good to his brothers and sisters, his parents and his wife. If this continues, your luck will be ruined by you. If you combine things with benefits, they will break up if you don't. Do you still want to go smoothly? It's impossible, your heart is already dark. If you go to the temple and burn incense and pray to Buddha and God every day, it will be useless.

I remember reading some articles that the maximum amount of energy you can spend interacting with people in life is only 60 people, and 80% of social interaction in life is useless. The so-called treating guests to dinner, building relationships, and gathering connections are actually of little use.

I said, "Think about it, you sacrificed your life to drink with others and spent all your time educating your children and spending time with your parents on various entertainments. Do you think it's valuable?"

You will not be blessed if you seek outside yourself. Just like the story we told in the past about the fox pretending to be the tiger's power

In my inner world, there is no difference between rich and poor. It doesn't make any sense to me whether I should be an official or not, or whether I should be a boss when I am old. We must not have the idea of ​​bullying the poor and the rich. We should face all our relatives and friends with a normal attitude, whether they are poor, rich, officials or not.

I used to have this problem. When others said something bad about me, I would get very depressed at first. Now that others say something bad about me, I am grateful. Why are you grateful? I think this is a good teacher and helpful friend. Only when he can really point out the shortcomings in my life can I become more complete; can he really guide me out of the mistakes I have made so that I will not make them again. Only in this way can we make progress with each passing day and live with less.

When we discover that we have made a mistake, speaking from the bottom of our hearts, we are enlightened. Like prosecutors, we blame other people's faults every day. In fact, we don't understand that our own faults are more serious than others. Because we don't make corrections and implement them, everything in life is unsatisfactory.

The so-called evil money and evil profit are money from improper sources, which are divided into two types. The first type comes from violating laws and disciplines. The second type is caused by violating ethics and morals.

Evil profit is not only corruption and bribery, but also includes gambling, deceiving people into joining pyramid schemes, and even insurance sellers exaggerating the performance of insurance, and drug sellers exaggerating the performance of drugs. This is also making evil profit.

The wealth obtained through evil gains is shared by the five thieves. Which five thieves? The first one is natural disaster. Floods, fires, earthquakes, you are prone to encounter them. Second, various accidents

There are two types of national taxes, one is local tax and the other is national tax. You owe a country's national taxes. There are hundreds of millions of people in this country, and these billions of people are all your creditors. What about local taxes? If you lose money from local taxes, then everyone in this area will be your creditors.

How to nourish the Three Treasures of Jing, Qi and Shen? The most important thing is to eliminate your own anger. We must achieve harmony between the heart and tongue, the kidneys and ears, the liver and eyes, the lungs and nose, and the spleen and mouth.