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This is a mind map about the courage to be hated, including "You can be unrestrained with this person": there is no need to feel inferior, and there is no need to show off superiority. If you want to live harmoniously together, you must Treat the other person as an equal, love is a red rope, and person is a chain.
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- One Hundred Years of Solitude Character Relationship Chart
One Hundred Years of Solitude is the masterpiece of Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Reading this book begins with making sense of the characters' relationships, which are centered on the Buendía family and tells the story of the family's prosperity and decline, internal relationships and political struggles, self-mixing and rebirth over the course of a hundred years.
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The courage to be hated
- One Hundred Years of Solitude Character Relationship Chart
One Hundred Years of Solitude is the masterpiece of Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Reading this book begins with making sense of the characters' relationships, which are centered on the Buendía family and tells the story of the family's prosperity and decline, internal relationships and political struggles, self-mixing and rebirth over the course of a hundred years.
- One Hundred Years of Solitude Character Relationship Chart
One Hundred Years of Solitude is the masterpiece of Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Reading this book begins with making sense of the characters' relationships, which are centered on the Buendía family and tells the story of the family's prosperity and decline, internal relationships and political struggles, self-mixing and rebirth over the course of a hundred years.
- Project Management Process Template
Project management is the process of applying specialized knowledge, skills, tools, and methods to project activities so that the project can achieve or exceed the set needs and expectations within the constraints of limited resources. This diagram provides a comprehensive overview of the 8 components of the project management process and can be used as a generic template for direct application.
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The courage to be hated
Teleological
What we do now is not caused by a certain "reason" in the past, but is done for a certain "purpose" (such as creating anger in order to get angry)
What matters is not what is given, but how to use what is given
It is not our past experiences that define us, but the meaning we give to them
The reason why I can't change is because I have made up my mind not to change.
interpersonal relationships
All troubles come from interpersonal relationships
self-abasement
Pursue excellence: If you are unable to achieve your ideals, you will have a sense of inferiority.
The inferiority complex of healthy people does not come from comparison with others, but from comparison with the "ideal self"
Inferiority complex: Because of A, we cannot do B
The law of external causation: interpreting people and events that originally have no causal relationship as if they have a major causal relationship
Superiority Complex: Acting as if one is superior and then immersing oneself in a false sense of superiority
To boast about one's misfortune: to use one's misfortune as a service to dominate others: the privilege of the weak
compete
Seeing other people's happiness as "my failure", that's why I can't give happiness
provocation-revenge
Power Struggle: Wanting to prove one’s strength by winning
Instead of using anger as a tool, communicate effectively
Once you are convinced that "I am right", you have entered into a power struggle
Admitting mistakes, apologizing, and withdrawing from power struggles are not "failures."
Everyone is my partner
Life Lesson-Three Major Fetters: Human Relationships That Have to Be Faced
Work topic
Friendship topics
The subject of love
"You can feel free to be with this person": There is no need to feel inferior or show off superiority.
If you want to live harmoniously together, you must treat each other as equals
Love is a red rope
Personally a chain
free
separation of subjects
Don’t interfere with other people’s issues, and don’t let others interfere with your own issues.
Basically all interpersonal conflicts are caused by interference in other people's issues.
Interfering in other people's issues is a self-centered idea
Aid instead of intervention
Take the horse to water but do not force it to drink
The only one who can change yourself is yourself
not seeking reward
"Return" is someone else's task
The card of interpersonal relationship is always in your own hands
not seeking recognition
Choose the path you think is best. How others evaluate it is their business and you have no control over it.
We don’t have to meet other people’s expectations
Horizontal relationships: different but equal
Inferiority complex is a consciousness that arises in vertical relationships
Praise and criticism are both top-to-bottom evaluations
Use encouragement instead of praise
For example, express gratitude instead of praise
Don’t look at others by the standard of “behavior” but by the standard of “existence”
Starting from an ideal image and deducting points one by one from 100 points is the idea of "evaluation". Starting from a zero starting point, you can express gratitude for the "existence" itself.
Don’t compare them with anyone else
In the vertical organizational structure (elderly, company): What is important is equality of consciousness and insistence on what one should stand for.
sense of community
Community: as small as you and me, as large as the universe, past and future
When we encounter difficulties in interpersonal relationships or cannot see an exit, the first thing we should consider is "listening to the voice of the greater community." For example, outside of the small community of school, you and the teachers are both equal "human beings"
Living in fear of the relationship breaking up is an unfree way of living for others (and the wider world)
The state of seeing others as partners and being able to feel that "one has a place"
Turn your obsession with yourself into concern for others
self-acceptance
God, please grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.
trust in others
Trust others without attaching any strings
(Whether "betrayal" is a matter for others
If you can't trust, you are not a partner.
A sense of belonging is not something you are born with, it must be obtained by your own hands.
Living in the moment
Life is a series of moments, you can only live in "this moment"
The past and future do not exist at all
Follow others' contributions
Target
Behavioral aspects
self-reliance
Live in harmony with society
psychological aspect
Awareness of "I am capable"
The consciousness of "Everyone is my partner"
Contributions of Others: The Guiding Star of a Free Life
What can I do for others and actively practice it?
Participate in the community, realize "I am useful to others" and gain the value of my own existence.
People can only feel their own value when they realize "I am useful to the community"
Invisible contribution: as long as it can produce the subjective feeling that "I am useful to others"
Happiness is a sense of contribution