MindMap Gallery The courage to be hated
The two attitudes and four functional types combine to form eight psychological types. Extraverted Thinking, Introverted Thinking, Extraverted Feeling, Introverted Feeling, Extraverted Feeling, Introverted Feeling, Extraverted Intuition, Introverted Intuition.
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One Hundred Years of Solitude is the masterpiece of Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Reading this book begins with making sense of the characters' relationships, which are centered on the Buendía family and tells the story of the family's prosperity and decline, internal relationships and political struggles, self-mixing and rebirth over the course of a hundred years.
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One Hundred Years of Solitude is the masterpiece of Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Reading this book begins with making sense of the characters' relationships, which are centered on the Buendía family and tells the story of the family's prosperity and decline, internal relationships and political struggles, self-mixing and rebirth over the course of a hundred years.
One Hundred Years of Solitude is the masterpiece of Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Reading this book begins with making sense of the characters' relationships, which are centered on the Buendía family and tells the story of the family's prosperity and decline, internal relationships and political struggles, self-mixing and rebirth over the course of a hundred years.
Project management is the process of applying specialized knowledge, skills, tools, and methods to project activities so that the project can achieve or exceed the set needs and expectations within the constraints of limited resources. This diagram provides a comprehensive overview of the 8 components of the project management process and can be used as a generic template for direct application.
The courage to be hated
About the Author
author
Japan-1956 Kishimi Ichiro-Philosopher-66 years old
Japan-1973 Fumiken Koga-freelance writer 49 years old
Published date
2015
reading time
February-March 2022
teleology, subject separation, community
4. Have the courage to be hated
1. Individual Psychology and Holistic Psychology
Holism - mind and body are integrally connected
Separation of subjects - not to alienate others, but to unravel the intricate interpersonal relationships
Relationship - red, yellow, blue and green threads intertwined together are entanglements, not connections.
2. The ultimate goal of interpersonal relationships
sense of community
Turn your obsession with yourself into concern for others
3. Desperately seeking recognition is self-centered
4. You are not the center of the world, just the center of the world map.
The French people's sense of imbalance when looking at the Chinese flat map can be solved by the angle of the globe - thinking, the integration and participation of the community is not about taking but giving.
5. Find your position in a broader world
Jump out of the cup and the fierce storm will turn into a breeze
6. Criticism is not good, nor is praise.
vertical relationship
Behind praise is the superior-subordinate relationship and vertical relationship. The purpose of praising others is to manipulate the other person who is less capable than themselves. There is neither respect nor gratitude.
Horizontal relationships: different but equal
7. Only with encouragement can you have courage.
hands-off assistance
Restriction is based on equality, neither criticism nor praise
8. If you have value, you have courage.
Thanks
People can only have value when they contribute to others, and they can have courage only when they feel value.
9. As long as it exists, it has value.
Summary of the article
Why are you so anxious to get answers? The answer should not be obtained from others, but should be found out for oneself. The answers you get from others are nothing more than symptomatic treatments and have little value.
Cai Zhizhong---- Reading thousands of books is not as good as traveling thousands of miles. Traveling thousands of miles is not as good as reading countless people. Reading countless people is not as good as showing the way by an expert. It is better to understand by oneself than by an expert.
Do you want to "become someone else"?
The basic disposition or character will never change
When faced with the question of whether they like themselves or not, few people can calmly answer “I like”.
Three major issues in life: making friends, work and love
But the core issue is human relationships
Romantic red thread and strong chain
The number of friends or acquaintances has no value
This is related to the theme of love, what we should consider is the distance and depth of the relationship
The distance is closer and the relationship is deeper.
Only when people can feel that "you can be unrestrained with this person" can you experience love. There is no need to show off inferiority or superiority, and one can maintain a calm and natural state. Real love should be like this
Adler said: "If you want to live harmoniously together, you must treat each other as equals.
"Courage" question
Destiny is in your own hands, it is not anyone else who determines your lifestyle (state of life) but yourself.
Starting from the heart---freedom means no longer seeking recognition
Do you want to live in the expectations of others?
If you don’t live your life for yourself, then who else will live for yourself?
10 people theory---whose subject is this?" Then separate the subjects-which are your own subjects and which are other people's subjects? You must calmly draw the line.
Interpersonal relationships are roughly divided into three attitudes: like, dislike and indifference.
Not to affirm oneself, but to accept oneself. Self-affirmation means knowing that you can't do it, but passively forcing yourself to work hard. Accepting yourself means knowing that you are ordinary, but not giving up hope and always working hard to move forward.
The tortoise and the hare - who can reach the top of the mountain? In the end, I realize that it is not easy to be like the tortoise. Take every step step by step and with a firm goal.
Mentality change: Do you work with the first mentality, or accept the status quo, work with the last mentality, integrate resources, take inventory of human resources structure, the past is in the past, but the ultimate is king now
Please grant me the peace to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the knowledge to know the difference between the two.
The harmonious way of life is very important
Avoid cheap pursuit of superiority
Focus on the present moment - the power of the present moment
The Myth of Sisyphus--True freedom is an attitude that pushes oneself up from below
Enlightenment
All things are connected, practice in mind, practice in work, wisdom and action, love and freedom!
Schopenhauer
Arthur Schopenhauer (German: Arthur Schopenhauer, February 22, 1788 - September 21, 1860, died at the age of 72)
famous german philosopher
He was the first person in the history of philosophy to openly oppose rationalist philosophy and pioneered irrationalist philosophy. He was also one of the founders and main representatives of voluntarism, believing that the will to life is the force that dominates the operation of the world.
The meaning of presentation in Schopenhauer’s philosophical thought: Will is the essence of the world --- (1) The human body is also an expression of self-will. (2) All activities of animals are governed by the will to survive. (3) Plant activities are also governed by the will to survive (4) The whole of nature and inanimate things are no exception (5) Reason and expression are only expressions of will and desire. (6) Knowledge is also a tool of will.
Kant's rationality: points out that the law of cause and effect is transcendental, and all empirical perceptions are subjective, and it is impossible to distinguish or recognize things in themselves. Schopenhauer pointed out that empirical objects can be obtained by intuition alone. Knowledge of things in themselves is gained through the inner sense of the intellect, which is known only in the form of time.
The Father of Self-Enlightenment-Adler’s Philosophy Lessons
Jung
Carl Gustav Jung (1875-1961), 86 years old
Swiss psychologist
Started working with Sigmund Freud in 1907, at the age of 32
Life is divided into four stages: (1) the first year of life; (2) childhood to adolescence; (3) adolescence to adulthood; (4) old age.
The two attitudes and four functional types combine to form eight psychological types. Extraverted Thinking, Introverted Thinking, Extraverted Feeling, Introverted Feeling, Extraverted Feeling, Introverted Feeling, Extraverted Intuition, Introverted Intuition
consciousness, personal unconscious, collective unconscious
Freud
Sigmund Freud (1856-1939), 83
Jewish
pansexuality
Austrian psychiatrist, psychologist, and founder of the school of psychoanalysis, known as the "First School of Psychoanalysis in Vienna"
Concepts such as "subconscious", "ego", "id", "superego", "Oedipus complex", "libido", "psychological defense mechanism", narcissism, sexuality and aggression
Subconscious, own associations, life and death instinct
Adler
Alfred Adler (1870-1937) 67 years old
Jewish
Three major theories: teleology, subject separation, and community feeling
Adler's theory centers on "inferiority complex" and "creative self" and emphasizes "social consciousness". Key concepts are the creative self, life style, imaginary teleology, striving for superiority, inferiority complex, compensation, and social interests. He inherited and developed Freud's psychoanalytic ideas, but his basic views were quite different from them.
At the same time as Freud, Adler was an Austrian psychiatrist and a leader in humanistic psychology. He founded individual psychology. Adler once followed Freud and discussed the issue of neurosis with him. He was also the first psychological scholar within the school of psychoanalysis to oppose Freud.