Everyone sees the world differently

Just change the way of thinking

Have a purpose first, then create the corresponding emotions

No matter what is given to you, the reality will not change.

What matters is not what is given, but how to use what is given

"Good" is not good in the universal moral sense, but "beneficial" and "self-interested"

"Evil" means something that is not beneficial. No one will do something that is not beneficial.

People have always chosen their own way of life

Lifestyle refers to: the tendency to think or behave in life

Comfort yourself with "I can do it no matter what", and it won't change at all.

Have the courage to achieve happiness and bravely try new lifestyles

I feel that my personality is not good, and my appearance and figure are not satisfactory to others.

Focus on other people’s opinions, low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, low self-esteem,

It’s a feeling, a comparison with others, not an objective fact

Value must be based on social significance

subjective interpretation

pursuit of superiority

Don’t want to change, or don’t want to work hard, believing that reality cannot be changed

Unable to accept my incompetence, I made excuses

immersed in a false sense of superiority

Use misfortune to show your special existence

Use misfortune as a weapon to dominate others

Take a positive view of differences with others. Although we are different, we are equal

Don’t compete with anyone, just keep moving forward

If you often compare yourself with others, you will have the idea of ​​"better than this one and worse than this one"

Slowly, you will unknowingly see other people and even the whole world as your enemy.

excessive self-awareness

The reason why I cannot sincerely bless others is because I consider the human-machine relationship from a competitive perspective.

Be liberated from the vicious cycle of competitive relationships and no longer have to defeat anyone.

See through the other person’s intentions and don’t be fooled

Once a relationship reaches the stage of revenge, it is almost impossible to reconcile it.

Anger is a form of communication. You can communicate without getting angry.

There is no need to rely on anger or use anger to communicate

If you think you are right, then the other party is wrong, and the two parties cannot have an equal dialogue.

You think you are right and try to make the other person give in

No matter what the job is, it cannot be done by one person alone

A healthy sense of inferiority is not about comparing yourself to others, but about comparing yourself to your "ideal self"

Without the coercive force of a working relationship, it is more difficult to carry out

Don't wait for others to change, take the first step bravely yourself

love relationship

family relations

See others as enemies, not as partners

If you hate A, say you do it because A has intolerable shortcomings

I won’t do good deeds if no one praises me.

If no one punishes me, I will do bad things

hope to be recognized

care about other people's evaluation

hope to be accepted

There are almost no willful people who do psychological counseling.

To identify whose project it is, you only need to consider who is ultimately responsible for the results.

Don’t interfere in other people’s issues

The only one who can change yourself is yourself

Don't impose your own hopes on others and make crude "interference"

Regarding your own life, all you can do is choose the path you think is best. How others evaluate your choice is someone else’s issue and you have no control over it.

You care about other people’s opinions because you don’t know how to separate subjects.

For example: I have an annoying leader

The separation of subjects is the entrance to interpersonal relationships

Separating issues is not self-centered, interfering with other people's issues is self-centered thinking

Whether they like you or not is a matter for others

The modern philosopher Immanuel Kant’s “tendency”

Change the purpose and things will be solved

After the subject was separated, I found that everything was in my own hands

Turn self interest into social intrerst

Turn your obsession with yourself into concern for others

Center definition for flat maps and globes

Thoughts such as disappointment, humiliation, and indignation when expectations are not fulfilled

If you think you are the center of the world, you will not take the initiative to integrate into the community, because others are there to serve you.

Instead of thinking about what this person will give me, think about what I can give this person

If an unreasonable request is made, you can refuse it directly

If this relationship can collapse due to opposition, there is no need to enter into it in the first place

If you want to be praised, it means you are living in a vertical relationship

Comments made by capable people on incompetent people

The purpose is to "manipulate the other person" without gratitude or respect.

The only difference between praising or criticizing others is "candy or whip".

Mr. Yangming's "Everyone is a sage and all things are one"

"You can take a horse to water, but you can't force it to drink."

He is the one who faces the issue head-on, and he is the one who makes up his mind.

Praise is "an evaluation made by a capable person to an incompetent person"

To get praise is to choose a lifestyle that caters to other people's values.

Don’t judge others, sincerely thank and respect them

Only when you are useful to the community can you feel your own value.

Someone has to start first

Even if the other party doesn't cooperate, it has nothing to do with you.

You can only choose one way of life

It is vertical to parents, bosses, and juniors, and it will also be vertical to friends.

It doesn’t mean treating everyone like friends, it means treating everyone as equals in consciousness

Even if the other party doesn't cooperate, it has nothing to do with you.

Have no confidence in your true self and avoid showing your true self in relationships

Just let go when you're alone

What matters is not what is given, but how you use it

Don’t actively affirm yourself, but learn to accept it

Accept the things that cannot be changed and accept yourself with only 60 points

Have the courage to change what can be changed

The opposite of trust is doubt. As long as you look at it with doubt, everything will become evidence.

Furthermore, whether to betray or not is a matter for others.

If you worry about betrayal, you will only focus on the pain caused by it.

Only when you feel that you are useful to the community can you feel your own value

Not what others have done for me, but what I can do for others

To treat others as partners requires self-acceptance and trust in others

If there are 10 people, there will definitely be one person whom you hate, who hates you, two people who will become good friends with you, and the remaining seven people are nothing.

Stuttering

workaholic

Happiness is the sense of contribution

Desire for recognition is a common means to gain a sense of contribution

The premise of happiness is freedom

Attract the attention of others, break away from the ordinary, and become something special

Accept yourself, ordinary does not mean incompetent

Live in the moment, not always on the road

You can't change the past, and you can't see the future. Live your life seriously.

Life is a continuation of moments, there is no past or future

Always thinking "I want to... do it when the time comes"

Live this moment seriously and don’t take life too seriously

Have a starting point and an end point

Once you do it, it's done

Don’t compete with others, live every moment to the fullest

Not afraid of being disliked, not living for others

Accept yourself and trust others

You have to start with others. If you don’t cooperate, it has nothing to do with you.

They are all my partners