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The courage to be hated
- One Hundred Years of Solitude Character Relationship Chart
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- One Hundred Years of Solitude Character Relationship Chart
One Hundred Years of Solitude is the masterpiece of Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Reading this book begins with making sense of the characters' relationships, which are centered on the Buendía family and tells the story of the family's prosperity and decline, internal relationships and political struggles, self-mixing and rebirth over the course of a hundred years.
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The courage to be hated
Adlerian Psychology
behavioral goals
self-reliance
Live in harmony with society
the psychological goals that underpin the behavior
Awareness of “I am capable”
"Everyone is my partner" awareness
Teleological
If we keep thinking about causes, we will never make progress.
Consider not the reasons of the past, but the purpose of the present
It is not our past experiences that define us, but the meaning we give to our experiences.
The first step to change is to understand
The reason why you can't change is because you have made up your mind not to change.
Your "purpose" is to "avoid getting hurt in relationships with others."
Don’t compare with anyone, as long as you keep moving forward. A healthy sense of inferiority does not come from the comparison of others, but from the comparison of your “ideal self”.
The value lies in constantly surpassing oneself
All troubles come from interpersonal relationships
Three major topics in life
Friendship topics
power struggle
Want to prove your strength by winning.
The next phase of the power struggle: the revenge phase
Work topic
Love the subject
Only when people can feel that "you can be unrestrained with this person" can you experience love. There is no need to show off inferiority or superiority, and one can maintain a calm and natural state.
Starting point: separation of topics
The things you can change are your own issues
What you can't do anything about is other people's problems
You cannot study for your children, learning is their subject
To distinguish between: what can be changed and what cannot be changed
Unable to change what was given
You can use your own power to change, how to use what is given to you
process
self-acceptance
What matters is not what is given, but how to use what is given
subtopic
Self-affirmation refers to: Even though you clearly can’t do it, you still hint to yourself that I can do it and I am strong.
Self-acceptance: If you can't do it, honestly accept that you can't do it, and then try your best to work towards what you can do without lying to yourself.
trust in others
Distinguish between credit and trust,
Trust refers to unconditional trust without any collateral
It’s not you who decides whether to betray or not, that’s someone else’s issue. You only need to consider “what should I do?”
Contributions from others
Life’s Guiding Star: North Star
To influence and contribute to others as partners is the contribution of others
Work
Go out into the community to work or do housework. Labor is not a means of earning money. Through labor, we realize the contributions of others, participate in the community, realize that we are useful to others, and then gain the value of our own existence.
Rich people already have huge wealth and are still working, just to contribute to others and gain a sense of belonging here.
end
community
The state of seeing others as partners and being able to feel that "one has a place" is called a sense of community.
It includes not only families, schools, workplaces, regional societies, but also all existences such as countries or humans. The timeline also includes everything from the past to the future, and even animals, plants, or non-living things.
Adlerian psychology opposes all "vertical relationships" and advocates that all interpersonal relationships be regarded as "horizontal relationships"
️Neither criticize nor praise
Aid based on horizontal relationships is called "encouragement"
Use thank you to express gratitude to partners who help you
Use words like "I'm very happy" to express your true joy.
It’s been a great help to express my gratitude.
The most important thing is not to judge others.
When people hear words of thanks, they know that they can contribute something to others.
People can only gain courage when they can feel that they are worthy.
People can only feel their own value when they can realize "I am useful to the community."
All happiness also comes from interpersonal relationships