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Life is not given by others, but chosen by yourself

The purpose of not wanting to go out is to make others blame themselves and make people pay attention to themselves.

The emotion of anger was fabricated in order to shock the waiter.

The so-called anger is actually just a means to express and talk about.

Irritable people do not have an impatient temper, but do not understand effective communication tools other than anger, so they say things like "can't help but get angry." This is actually using anger to communicate.

People are not influenced by past reasons, but move towards their own goals.

The reason why you can't change is because you have made up your mind not to change.

Because of the uneasiness of the unknown outside the comfort zone, even if people are dissatisfied, they still think it is easier and more reassuring to maintain the status quo.

The reason why you are unlucky is not because of your past and environment, nor because of a lack of ability. You just lack courage.

If you remain "who you are now", you can speculate based on experience on how to deal with the situation in front of you and what the outcome will be. It can be said that you are in a state of familiarity. Even if you encounter some situation, you can find a way to deal with it.

It takes a lot of "courage" to change your lifestyle. Faced with the "uneasiness" caused by change and the "dissatisfaction" caused by change, you must choose the latter.

How someone sees the world and how they see themselves. The concept of bringing together these ways of giving meaning can be understood as a way of life.

Making excuses for not making changes.

If you don't change, you won't develop.

It might fail, but so what? It should be done.

The reason why you only see the shortcomings is because you have made up your mind not to like yourself. In order to achieve the goal of not liking yourself, you only look at the shortcomings and not the advantages.

Because not liking yourself is a "good thing" for you.

It’s simply impossible not to get hurt in a relationship. As long as you are involved in interpersonal relationships, you will be hurt, big or small, and you will hurt others.

Fear of being looked down upon or rejected by others, fear of being hurt mentally. You think it would be better not to be associated with anyone in the first place than to be in that predicament. That is, your "purpose" is to "avoid getting hurt in your relationships with others."

Feeling like you have no value or only a little value

My feeling about my height ultimately lies in the comparison of others, which is a subjective sense of inferiority that arises in interpersonal relationships.

The inferiority complex that troubles us is not an "objective fact" but a "subjective explanation"

As long as there is no A, I can also do B

Afraid of moving forward or not wanting to make a real effort

self-handicapping

Simply put it is a fear of moving forward or a lack of real effort. Not willing to sacrifice the fun you currently enjoy - such as fun or leisure time - in order to change yourself

Suffering from a strong sense of inferiority, but lacking the courage to change through sound means such as hard work or growth. And I can't stand the inferiority complex of "because I have a, I can't do b". That’s why we have a superiority complex

Weakness has privilege: babies are the strongest

Expose one's inferiority complex and use it as a weapon

The value lies in constantly surpassing oneself

There is no need to compare yourself with others.

The value lies in constantly surpassing oneself.

Thinking about relationships from a competitive perspective will see other people’s happiness as my own failure, so I won’t be able to give my blessings.

Unknowingly, you will see others and even the entire world as "the enemy" Believes that everyone is an enemy who can be fooled, ridiculed, and attacked at any time and should not be taken lightly

If you can realize that "everyone is my partner", you will have a completely different view of the world. The world in your eyes will no longer be a dangerous world, and the troubles in interpersonal relationships will be greatly reduced.

The reason why many people cannot feel happy despite achieving social success is because they live in competition.

If you can realize that "everyone is my partner", your view of the world will be completely different.

Because you don’t want to fail, you don’t want to admit your mistakes, and you end up choosing the wrong path. The pursuit of superiority is not accomplished through competition with others

If you are scolded in person, consider the hidden purpose of that person, whether he is provoking a power struggle. That is, wanting to prove one’s strength by winning

If others lose, they will enter the revenge stage. Plotting revenge in other places and in other forms Example: Children who are abused by their parents will go astray and play truant.

The behavioral goals include the following two points: ①Self-reliance. ②Coexist harmoniously with society. Moreover, the psychological goals that support this behavior also have the following two points: ① The awareness of "I am capable". ②The awareness of “everyone is my partner”.

Because interpersonal relationships at work have a simple and easy-to-understand common goal of achieving results, they can cooperate or must cooperate even if they are not compatible with each other. Moreover, the relationship formed by "work" can be resumed after get off work or changing careers. Change back to a relationship with others.

Sir, are you saying that they don't want to work or refuse to work, but they just don't want to go to work to escape "work-related interpersonal relationships"?

This refers to a broader friendship beyond work. Because there is no coercive force like a working relationship, it is more difficult to start and develop.

The number of friends or acquaintances has no value. This is related to the theme of love and what we should consider is the distance and depth of the relationship.

Don't wait for others to change, don't wait for the situation to change, but take the first step bravely yourself

"You can feel free to be with this person"

If you encounter problems in love, you cannot escape The most undesirable thing is to stop moving forward in "this" state.

In order to avoid life issues (relationships), you fabricate other people's shortcomings.

Then others don’t live to meet your expectations. Don’t get angry when other people’s behavior is not in line with your wishes

There is no need to be recognized by others, and there is no need to seek recognition.

Only when we are recognized by others can we realize that we are valuable. Through the recognition of others, we can eliminate our inferiority complex and increase our self-confidence. Yes, this is the question of "value". Sir, didn’t you say that last time? Inferiority is a matter of value judgment. It is precisely because I cannot get the approval of my parents that I have been living with low self-esteem!

You can take a horse to water, but you cannot force it to drink.

The method of identifying whose subject is who is ultimately responsible for the consequences of a certain choice?

Let go of other people's problems and fly away easily

The same goes for giving, don’t be bound by thoughts of reward

Living in fear of relationship breakdown is an extremely unfree lifestyle of living for others.

If you think you are the center of the world, you will not actively integrate into the community at all, because all others are "people who serve me, and there is no need to take action on your own."

A sense of belonging is not something you are born with, it must be obtained by your own hands.

"What can I give this person?"

People will form the belief that "they are incapable" because of praise.

The feeling of inferiority is originally a consciousness arising from vertical relationships.

different but equal i.e. horizontal relationship

Assistance based on horizontal relationships is encouraged

Show concern for others, build horizontal relationships, and use encouragement

The important thing is not to judge others;

People can only gain courage when they can feel that they are worthy. Not objectively, but subjectively I can make a contribution to others

Existence is valuable

Not self-affirmation but self-acceptance

Positive optimism: bravely change the "changeable" and calmly accept the "cannot be changed"

Too much self-consciousness

Trust others without attaching any strings

Think about what I can do for others and actively do it

By treating others as partners, you can find your place in the community you belong to and gain a sense of belonging here.

Through something, I can realize the contribution of others, participate in the community, realize that I am useful to others, and then gain the value of my own existence.

What we should think about is not what he thinks I have done, but what I can do for others and actively practice it

self-reliance

Live in harmony with society

I am capable

Everyone is my partner

Don’t procrastinate by thinking about setting big goals

What matters is neither yesterday nor tomorrow, but this moment.

The meaning of life is given by oneself

Someone has to start. Even if others don't cooperate, it has nothing to do with you. It should start with you, without having to consider whether others will cooperate.