MindMap Gallery The Courage to Be Disliked on the ultimate goal of interpersonal relationships - a mind map of community feeling
The book adopts the classical method of Greek philosophy "Dialogue" and launches a simple but profound discussion around the issue of "how people can obtain happiness". The "philosopher" explains to the "youth" in a simple and easy-to-understand way how to improve interpersonal relationships, how to obtain happiness, and how to muster up the courage to face others when being disliked.
Edited at 2022-11-30 21:24:45One Hundred Years of Solitude is the masterpiece of Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Reading this book begins with making sense of the characters' relationships, which are centered on the Buendía family and tells the story of the family's prosperity and decline, internal relationships and political struggles, self-mixing and rebirth over the course of a hundred years.
One Hundred Years of Solitude is the masterpiece of Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Reading this book begins with making sense of the characters' relationships, which are centered on the Buendía family and tells the story of the family's prosperity and decline, internal relationships and political struggles, self-mixing and rebirth over the course of a hundred years.
Project management is the process of applying specialized knowledge, skills, tools, and methods to project activities so that the project can achieve or exceed the set needs and expectations within the constraints of limited resources. This diagram provides a comprehensive overview of the 8 components of the project management process and can be used as a generic template for direct application.
One Hundred Years of Solitude is the masterpiece of Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Reading this book begins with making sense of the characters' relationships, which are centered on the Buendía family and tells the story of the family's prosperity and decline, internal relationships and political struggles, self-mixing and rebirth over the course of a hundred years.
One Hundred Years of Solitude is the masterpiece of Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Reading this book begins with making sense of the characters' relationships, which are centered on the Buendía family and tells the story of the family's prosperity and decline, internal relationships and political struggles, self-mixing and rebirth over the course of a hundred years.
Project management is the process of applying specialized knowledge, skills, tools, and methods to project activities so that the project can achieve or exceed the set needs and expectations within the constraints of limited resources. This diagram provides a comprehensive overview of the 8 components of the project management process and can be used as a generic template for direct application.
The ultimate goal of interpersonal relationships - a sense of community
sense of community
what is community
Treat others as partners
find your place
make a contribution
what is a sense of community
Treat others as partners
The state of feeling that "one has a place"
For example, we spiritually pursue the thoughts of Confucius and Mencius and are willing to carry them forward as communicators. This is also a sense of community.
For example, in the recent World Cup, when we cheered for the same team, it also felt like a community.
community scope
Family, school, work. , regional society
All existences such as countries or human beings
past to future
the whole universe
Why a sense of community is so important
Is an important indicator of happy relationships
How to find a sense of community
The smallest unit of society is you and me
As long as there are two people, society will be created and a community will be created.
If we want to have the feeling of being in a community, we must first find the value of our own existence, which is the courage to gain happiness.
How to exist in an equal relationship
Give up attachment to yourself (self-centeredness)
Three types of self-centered people
powerful
Arrogant and unreasonable
self-centered
Just consider your own feelings
He thinks the whole world should revolve around him
bully others
Do something violent
Selfish and willful
Unsociable
destroy harmony
Not participating in group activities
Always likes to act alone
No sense of collective honor
irresponsible
seek approval from others
care about other people's opinions
Failure to separate subjects well
Method, only by actively participating in the community can you find your place and have a sense of belonging.
Get along with others on an equal footing, without criticizing or praising
Build good interpersonal relationships, horizontal relationships
Don't interfere in other people's issues, only provide assistance
Don’t criticize, don’t praise, use encouragement
Existence has value (from what aspects can the value of existence be considered)
There are standards to measure a person's worth
"Existing here" is already useful and valuable to others.
For example, the crystallization of wisdom left by the great wise men of the past have invisibly promoted the progress of human civilization.
How to find happiness in community
Self-Acceptance – How to Make Use of What You’re Given
Accept what cannot be changed, such as the original family,
Have the courage to use your own views and methods to change what can be changed. (Self-reliance, I have the awareness of ability)
The difference between self-affirmation and self-acceptance
Trust in Others - Unconditional trust in others
The difference between trust and reliance
Obstacles to trust in others
Suspect
Unable to build deep trusting relationships
Active trust is the prerequisite for building deep relationships
betray
Betrayal is someone else’s problem
Have the courage to accept it
Can no longer trust
Take the initiative to end the relationship
Can be stopped at any time
Contribution of others - finding a sense of belonging in the community
concept
To influence and contribute to others as partners is the contribution of others.
When we can both accept ourselves and trust others, others become partners to us.
Established a sense of belonging that “can be here”
Contribution by others is not self-sacrifice
A method used by others to realize the value of "my" when others contribute.
Participate in the community, realize that I am useful to others, and gain the value of existence.
For example, go to work in society or do housework, and realize the contribution of others through labor
For example, rich people do charity
Think about what I can do for others and actively participate in practice
manifestations of others’ contributions
Behavioral aspects: self-reliance and harmonious coexistence with society.
Only by balancing the abilities of all aspects can we achieve harmony in life.
Do you demand yourself according to behavioral standards or existential standards? Regarding the courage to obtain happiness
Psychology: I have the awareness of ability, and everyone is my partner
The greatest misfortune in life is not liking yourself,
I am beneficial to the community and being useful to others is enough for people to realize their own value.
People are valuable only when they feel that they are useful. Usefulness is reflected in the sense of contribution, and happiness is the sense of contribution.