Honest communication is the most basic rule for lovers, regardless of their academic level or whether they have a good job or position, They are telling each other honestly. At the same time, honesty is the basis of trust between both parties. Trust is the key to the success or failure of love. If you keep using lies to manage your business, the lie will become the fatal point of your breakup on the day it is discovered.

Young people often have to take care of love while working hard, and they have to do a good job in professional work while they are in love. It is very difficult to take care of both, and sometimes irreconcilable conflicts arise. Therefore, you must be careful when dealing with girls, and you must be fully committed. When you get along, try not to mention people who have nothing to do with your relationship. Even if you just mention it casually, it will leave some traces and make the other party think that you don't take it seriously or are absent-minded.

When in love, boys will be unconditionally obedient to girls, so that after marriage, girls will also unconditionally propose. But girls need to know what demands can be made, what things can be willful, and what bottom line can only be "done". Put yourself in the man's shoes and don't be too unreasonable. This will make the man feel that he is not marrying a wife, but taking a daughter home.

Falling in love is not about transforming a person, but about changing for the better. You are still you, and he is still him, but later on, you became a better version of us.

After a period of communication between two people who don't know each other, they can get to know you briefly in a short period of time. The same goes for falling in love. You should try your best to show your strengths and advantages to the other person and let the other person notice you.

When you introduce yourself, you are praising yourself, but don’t forget to praise the other person’s strengths as well. Everyone has vanity and likes to be praised.

In the process of getting along, the necessary humor can make the atmosphere more relaxed and pleasant. You must know how to behave in life, not to be too fussy, not to be too stingy.

The chat topics should not be limited to each other's emotional experiences. You can also talk about TV series, movies, and books you have read recently. If you both like to read the news, you can also chat about the international situation, current political news, etc. Falling in love is not that simple, It takes a lot of time to understand, so it is necessary to do more homework in the early stage, so that the success rate of falling in love will be higher.

Many people think that to love someone is to be nice to them all the time, but they are often self-defeating and cannot find the right way. In fact, most people's "goodness" is just to impress themselves, and they are not really considerate of the other person. This requires you to maintain a rational way of thinking during the relationship and know what girls really need. Instead of forcing what you think is good on her, and insisting on moving her, she feels that it is not worth the effort.

When some people are in a relationship, they will be very attentive when chasing a girl at the beginning. They will consider every aspect, no matter how big or small. Chatting with the girls on WeChat from morning to night was non-stop, and there were all kinds of little surprises and gifts, which made the girls feel extremely happy from the beginning.

Later, when we get together, it becomes more normal, and we are not as obsessed as before. At this time, the girl's happiness will gradually decrease. They may even suspect that you won’t cherish them after you catch them. In this way, there will be many conflicts and constant quarrels between the two people. Until the end when a girl can no longer feel any happiness, that may be when your relationship ends.

So when you first fall in love, don't immediately want to give everything to be good to the girl. After all, if the gap is too big in the future, problems will also arise.

When there is a conflict between the two parties, there will be situations where there is no quarrel, no communication, and no explanation. This is a phenomenon of cold violence.

But in fact, cold and violent behavior in love is very undesirable. If you have any issues with your partner, communicate and resolve them in a timely manner. Silence can't solve anything. Only when two people sit down and explain calmly can the problem be truly solved. So when we quarrel, Boys should learn to bow their heads when it's time to bow their heads, and don't maintain a state of cold violence with girls for a long time. In this way, the relationship will naturally change over time.

It sounds ridiculous to say that they are well-matched, but there is a certain truth to it. A blind date marriage is much happier than a free love marriage!

Marriage is the union of two families. During a blind date, the experiences and backgrounds of the two families will be weighed. It is easier to develop the same outlook on life and values ​​in a similar native family environment.

The words of parents' orders and matchmaking have great scientific feasibility. Some people may say, what kind of society is it now? Arranged marriages are illegal, but now it's all about free love!

First of all, let me clarify that a blind date is not the same as an arranged marriage. Arranged marriage means that parents or elders consider the future of both parties. Arrange a blind date for both parties to encourage both parties to complete the marriage as soon as possible. Today's blind dates are based on the fact that both parties have the right family conditions. Both parties can also choose and get along with each other, and during the relationship, they can discover whether the other party is suitable for marriage. Even if they are not suitable, they can still separate.

My parents are ordinary farmers who also got married on a blind date, and most people of their generation got married through blind dates and matchmaking. There are many people around me who have married through blind dates, and most of them live a happy married life with children and grandchildren.

Whether it's a blind date or a relationship, the person you choose must have good character.

What is character? Character is a person's moral quality and moral cultivation. The essence of virtue is dedication. This depends on his dedication to his parents, his dedication to his friends, his dedication to strangers and society.

Specifically, a person's character is reflected in all aspects.

Needless to say, kindness is the most basic. A good and correct attitude, attitude cannot determine everything, but everything starts with attitude; starting with a correct attitude, It is the prerequisite for taking practical actions. Perseverance and perseverance are the key to success. Integrity, integrity is not only a noble quality, but also the foundation of human conduct. etc.

You have to learn to observe and discover from daily little things whether this person has a good character, or whether the so-called good character is just pretending in front of you. It's like, in front of you, you look like a mature and steady gentleman, but in front of your parents, elders or friends, you look completely different. Then you should think carefully about whether this person is a fake gentleman who treats you differently.

You have to have your own evaluation standards and opinions on whether a person is suitable for life and whether he is a potential stock. Just like, he has promised you each other that he has the ability to give you a lot of infinitely beautiful future, I also made a good plan of when to achieve what goal, and what I can achieve if I have the ability.

Don't trust your own ears. Ears can sometimes deceive people. Wait until they have achieved something.

That is to say, you should not judge his ability based on his future empty promises.

You have to look at his past and present. Is he now stronger than others in all aspects or in a certain aspect? You should look at the honors and achievements he has received so far to see his abilities, not his promises.

The so-called personal conditions mainly include family background, family conditions, your appearance, Height, education, experience, work income, personality, behavior, etc.

It goes without saying that family background and family conditions are the foundation.

A person's education, experience and work reflect his character and emotional intelligence in dealing with people. It is best for both parties to be equivalent in terms of academic qualifications and experience. In this way, in the family formed, we can have a relatively similar understanding and knowledge in terms of ideological understanding and life values, as well as a common goal and direction.

Regarding height, appearance, temperament, etc., the two parties should be similar, and there shouldn't be too big a difference.

To put it bluntly, if you want to be as beautiful as a fairy, just find someone who is more beautiful than Pan An. Don’t say that you don’t pay attention to looks. If the disparity between the two parties is too big, Public opinion from the outside will also say: So-and-so is so beautiful, but she found an ugly man, probably... This will make it easier for family conflicts and problems to arise.

It doesn’t mean that you have to find someone particularly handsome just because you are beautiful. What I mean is that as long as the difference in personal conditions between the two parties is not too great, it’s fine.

All in all, to establish a correct view of marriage and love, we must first clearly understand the importance of being a good match, and secondly, we must pay attention to the good character of the other party. You must have strong abilities and similar personal conditions, so that you can find the right direction in love and marriage and live a happy life!

(1) If a worker wants to do his job well, he must first sharpen his tools

(2) Identify the target and take the initiative

(3) Obtain contact information for further contact

(4) Dating activities, including Zhang Youchi

(5) Hot and cold, trying to catch

(1) Don’t answer the phone in a hurry

(2) I’m a little late for the date

(3) Act cute and lovable

(4) It’s okay to be sexy

(5) Grasp the scale of intimacy well

(6) Play hard to get, whet your appetite

(7) Give him all-round care and let him feel your love

The most important thing in love is to let the other person understand the truest self and understand what kind of person he is. The two people constantly get along with each other during their relationship. Work together to keep the temperature of love at a saturated state. In love, you must let the other person understand the truest self and like the true self.

In the process of love, bad boys should keep a rational mind. Girls prefer to act coquettishly and make demands of boys. At this time, boys should be careful not to allow girls to act coquettishly and agree to everything. This will cause girls to be unscrupulous and even lead to many conflicts.

Therefore, boys must also learn to say no. By reasoning and using their own emotions to convince their girlfriends, it is conducive to the two people to get along with each other on the road of love. Coordinate with each other, which is beneficial to love without harm, and will help love last longer.

Whether you make a big mistake or a small mistake, if you do something wrong, you should be responsible for your actions. Especially in love, many boys make mistakes but are unwilling to admit them. Instead, he chooses to hide his mistakes. This is an unwise idea and will only lead to emotional conflicts with his girlfriend, which is harmful and unprofitable.

Anyone who has studied the Bad Boy Charm Project knows that it is critical to be honest about your mistakes in a timely manner. So we must learn to admit our mistakes, When you know that you have done something wrong, you should put down your face and apologize, because this is not the time to save face. You should take responsibility for your mistakes seriously and openly. Apologizing is not a shameful thing, but reflects your attitude of correcting your mistakes. Instead of stubbornly insisting that you are not wrong, this will only lead to conflicts.

Boys love face, and girls also love face, so as a boy, you must not accuse her in front of outsiders or friends. Even if you don't like what your girlfriend is doing, you shouldn't say it in front of everyone. If you do, you'll be in big trouble. Such an approach will only embarrass your girlfriend, and at the same time she will start to wonder if you really like her?

No matter how much you dislike some of her actions, you should show great love and care for her in front of outsiders or friends. This way she will feel safe. Bad boys usually don't accuse their girlfriends like this.

Even if you want to say something is wrong with your girlfriend, the two of you should find a suitable time and place to bring it up separately. It can reduce unnecessary conflicts, and girls will be more able to accept questions or mistakes raised by boys.

There are many reasons why couples break up, but there are many reasons for them to break up due to misunderstandings, and most of them are caused by one thing. Small things that can be solved as long as both parties communicate well, but lack of communication leads to many problems or even breakups.

Communication is not only important in love but also in daily life. As long as there is communication, big things can be turned into nothing. Both parties in love have become the closest people to each other, so they should talk more about their innermost feelings and thoughts. Let the other person understand your inner thoughts, and communication plays a bridge role in the love between two people.

Love is tolerant rather than indulgent, and nothing can be taken for granted. When a girl does something wrong, boys must learn to put themselves in her shoes, understand her and tolerate her. There are more or less bumps and bruises on the road of love, so both parties must learn to understand and tolerate each other in order to maintain love for a longer time.

When a boy is in love, he must not take the initiative to talk to his ex-girlfriend in advance. This will make your current girlfriend think that you still care about your ex. If your girlfriend asks, don't go into details.

Otherwise, she will compare herself, which is very detrimental to the love life of both parties. The bad boy reminds you that even if you want to say it yourself, Then you must have a neutral attitude and don't praise your ex. Otherwise, she will think that you are still reluctant to let go of your ex. This is when you are in trouble, so try to avoid the topic of your ex-girlfriend, even if your girlfriend asks to talk about it.

Whether in life or in love, girls always like to talk. However, boys may feel irritated, but you have to know that she is doing it for your own good.

For boys, they may not be so good at listening, but may feel bored. At this time, conflicts or conflicts may easily arise.

So boys must learn to listen. When your girlfriend needs someone to talk to, please remember to stay with her and let her feel you. You can be her support, and you can also give her help or make suggestions. At the same time, you can also understand her innermost thoughts, which is conducive to the development of the relationship.

The writer Mr. Wu Ruoquan believes that in the process of interaction between the sexes, easy commitment is often the greatest destructive power of love. Therefore, making the other person sad appropriately can make the relationship more flexible, but remember that it is not to make the lover fall into despair. The size depends on how much pressure the opponent can withstand. Various techniques for falling in love.

For example, when one of the parties in love asks a question like "Will you love me for a long time?", if you know that there are many unknown variables in the future, But instead she sang "I'll love you for ten thousand years" to him, fearing that her relationship would change in the future and she would end up being called a bad luck guy.

However, if your answer is "I will try my best, but I can't guarantee it!" maybe the other person will feel a little sad when they first hear it. But a frank attitude will encourage emotions to develop on a more rational path and avoid unnecessary quarrels.

When it comes to love, everyone thinks they are the most serious. However, in the process of two people getting along intimately, being too serious will cause unnecessary pressure.

Love with a sense of humor makes people unforgettable. For men and women who are interested in dating or in love, Flirtating moderately and saying sweet words from time to time can indeed help to sublimate emotions.

Although silence is golden is a long-standing proverb, it does not apply to love. Sweet words can be said to ignite the flames of lust.

Everyone has heard the saying, "Noisy kids get candy." In the past, our education always told us not to lose our temper at will, Losing your temper is a sign of being uneducated; however, in the interactive relationship between men and women, as long as one party is secretly sulking or being overly tolerant, This will only cause resentment to build up in your heart, and it will eventually explode.

In fact, as long as the time, place and method are appropriate, losing your temper at the right time can be very effective, because a small amount of anger can Helps manage and adjust the relationship between the sexes. Compared with sour cynicism and a sudden but moderate temper, Taking the lead in love can yield immediate results.

"When the book is used, you will hate it less" can also be applied to the category of love. Only those who are experienced in flirting can control the situation and be invincible in the love scene.

Everyone knows that you won’t suffer any loss when you shop around. If you don’t have any beauty, At the very least, you should be familiar with the weekly current affairs and jokes, and find the treasure at the most appropriate time. Let others experience your special talents, otherwise in this free and open love market, if you have no capital, there is no point in competing with others.

Now with the development of science and technology, the emergence of the Internet era. We find that many lovers lack the mentality to express their love through the Internet.

He can be obsessed with computer games, and you can be busy blogging. In fact, through the Internet, we can do things that we would not normally do.

For example, you can send an email to the other person, telling the other person how much you love him or her, etc. This plays a big role in feelings.

Experts tell us: When you see each other from another perspective, your relationship will also grow.

You can usually go to the gym together and let the other person see another side of you. You can also go dancing together and laugh at each other's dance moves. These can give each other a different sense of freshness.

Preparing some activities for each other in advance will make your love more passionate.

You can find an opportunity to secretly paste an "I love you" note on the door when the other person is not at get off work.

Then arrange candles in the room and prepare the music that the other party likes. All of these can make the other person fall in love with you.

When you first start a new relationship, everything feels like an adventure.

You never know what will happen or what your future holds.

So now, you can spend a day or two on the weekend traveling together without any destination.

You don't need to plan anything or where to stop. This way you will feel like you are going on an adventure, It's like going back to the feeling you had when you first started falling in love, a mysterious and exciting feeling coming back.

Yes, companionship is one of the ways to stabilize a relationship, but excessive time together can cause cracks in your relationship.

Because it will make the other party feel that their normal communication has been cut off. Make sure you don’t ignore the existence of friendship.

Love is noble, but you should not regard it as the only one.

The misunderstanding of many people is that once they do not put their partner first and consider their needs at all times, the relationship will face collapse.

In reality, sometimes your family, your health, and even your job may take precedence over love.

Everyone longs to find a lifelong partner, but in reality this is not easy, otherwise there would not be so many couples who break up and get back together.

Try not to think too much and just focus on every day and every moment you have together.

If you want your love to be smoother and sweeter, then these details of the relationship must not be easily ignored. You must pay attention to your own mental health, so that if there is a conflict between two people, they can be resolved quickly and effectively.

People with this kind of mentality only require their lovers to surround themselves, listen to themselves, and serve themselves. Catering to your own personality needs without regard to the needs, interests, hobbies and values ​​of the other person.

Therefore, it is difficult to get the love of the opposite sex. People with this kind of mentality can only change their own values. At the same time, only by learning to care, considerate, and respect others can we say that we have the basic conditions for a successful relationship.

Some people over-idealize their lovers and set the standards too high, exceeding the actual possibilities. This greatly narrows the scope of mate selection and reduces the success rate of love.

Especially among older young people, the mentality of seeking perfection is more prominent, and the result is that they make mistakes again and again. People with this kind of mentality should return from idealism to reality, and it is not too late to adjust their mate selection standards in time.

People with inferiority complex do not necessarily have poor conditions. Others are caused by physical defects or occupational reasons or by some mistakes.

Inferiority complex can easily lead to isolation, isolation, unwillingness to appear in public, and unwillingness to interact with the opposite sex. When you meet your ideal opposite sex, you will lose the opportunity because you are worried that the other person will look down on you and you will not dare to pursue it boldly. People with this mentality should cheer up and build up self-confidence and self-improvement.

People with this kind of mentality show a lack of assertiveness in their opinions about their lovers. When others say good things, you feel satisfied. If others say something bad, they will feel that it is not ideal, and they often end up ruining their love by following the crowd.

For people with this mentality, it is good to listen to public discussions, but they must carefully analyze and judge and make up their own minds.

People with this mentality not only think that men are stronger than women, but women also think that men should be stronger than women. The woman requires that the man's status and cultural level be higher than hers. If the man's status and cultural level are lower than the woman's, she will not have the courage to pursue the woman. This is a remnant of the patriarchal ideology of feudal society, and some young men and women are still consciously bound by this concept.

The key to overcoming this mentality is for young men and women to truly understand the true meaning of love and establish the idea of ​​equality between men and women.

Due to the influence of feudal superstition, some people pray to gods and Buddhas for their marriage, and do fortune-telling and fortune-telling. This hinders the establishment and development of love relationships between young men and women, and even leads to misfortune.

People with this mentality should establish scientific concepts and eliminate the influence of ignorance and heresy.

Let’s talk about the core first: being together impulsively in a sensual atmosphere.

1. Choose a good location

2. Create a more relaxed and pleasant atmosphere first

3. Some physical contact would be better

4. Express your feelings and express your love for him

5. Confess love and confirm relationship

Of course, the above is a relatively ideal and smooth situation. In order to be foolproof, you must also be prepared for the possible worst situation, that is, he does not agree.

His refusal is divided into two types:

To summarize the core essentials of confession: it is to create a perceptual atmosphere, and then be together impulsively in an ambiguous atmosphere.

Therefore, you should choose to express your love in person, rather than on the phone or WeChat, because the other party will be more emotional if you express your love in person. It is easier to be together impulsively, and agreeing to be together sometimes requires that sudden impulse.

Maybe you are afraid of embarrassment, so you choose to call or WeChat, but the embarrassment is gone and the impulse is gone.

① Confession without any foreshadowing.

②Don’t make a lengthy confession

③Don’t be bitter

④Don’t make your confession dramatic

⑤Don’t say you were joking after being rejected

The core: Don't let him judge your relationship from a rational state, because being together requires emotional impulse.