It refers to the tendency to view one's choices and experiences as being under one's control rather than being determined by fate, luck, or others

Becoming masterful at something helps develop your internal core of control and creates a sense of satisfaction (even if only for a short time).

But this requires a lot of time and energy, and it also requires continuous mental training

People feel less happy when their minds wander, and this is true regardless of the activity they are engaged in.

While others enjoy the company of family and friends, it is dissatisfaction with the status quo that keeps us at work

It maximizes dopamine’s ability to make new plans

found that people's happiness decreased when their minds wandered, and this was true regardless of the activity they were engaged in.

Whether they are eating, working, watching TV or socializing, they are happier if they focus on what they are doing

The researchers concluded: “Human thinking is a kind of wandering thinking, and wandering thinking makes people unhappy.

Understand that ideas must be combined with real-life activities to be carried out simultaneously

He was wealthy but miserable, a pain that drove him to see a mental health professional

A few months later, he rediscovered his passion for painting, a hobby he had abandoned decades earlier

"I can't wait to go home at the end of the day," he told his doctor. "I painted for four hours last night and I didn't even realize the time had passed.

These activities can last a lifetime and never go out of style

Drawing, petting cats, reading, listening to music, dancing, and watching dramas are all flow experiences.

Such as painting, composing music or making a model airplane

We can't find a practical reason to do these things

They are difficult, at least in the beginning, and they may not make us money, bring us prestige, or guarantee us a better future

But they might make us happy

But none of these fields ranks high in the happiness they bring to people, because the happiest people are construction workers

Maybe it’s true that migrant workers are happier than IT migrant workers

Accept the fact that suffering is part of it

It is dissatisfaction with the status quo that keeps us working

Unlocking the brain's full potential requires a combination of sensory reality and abstract thought

When it operates at its peak, it produces not only happiness and contentment, or wealth and knowledge, but also rich sensory experiences and wisdom

try new things

Complete a series of small tasks

listen to music

meditation

The habit of setting goals: be practical, think about the goals repeatedly, and imagine what you will look like after achieving the goals.

bask in the sun

meditation

Proper vitamin D supplementation

sports

healthy diet

Practice gratitude

give someone a hug

listen to music

express appreciation to others

get along with friends

Participate in social activities

Play with small animals

engage in moderate intensity exercise

Practice yoga or meditation

listen to music

painting

laugh

Eat small amounts of dark chocolate

Moderate credit for spicy food

They like to pursue new experiences because they have little tolerance for boredom

About 1/5 of the world's population has the 7R allele, but it varies greatly from place to place

This makes them restless and dissatisfied, leaving them hungry for something better

These people therefore leave their existing communities to explore the unknown world

The country that provides the United States with the most tech entrepreneurs is India

This rate is about the same as smoking and higher than obesity or lack of exercise.

Even just to survive, our brains need affinity

Raising children costs a lot of money

Germany opens borders to take in refugees during Syrian refugee crisis

Senses to experience virtual sex life without inconvenient tights such as reproduction. After all, people are no longer willing to have children.

When current trends meet the temptation of VR, the future of mankind will be very questionable

Progressivism is a forward arrow

Conservatives are often skeptical of change

Highlight – dopamine

A short and superficial article is more likely to stand out – it stands out

Controlling dopamine might stop this tendency, but it gets swept up in the tide of novelty and flashiness that is the currency of the internet.

Potentially rewarding future got 1 from dopamine

It gets 0 from the present system, because the present system only cares about the present

Loss is also about the future, so dopamine is involved and gets –1

Loss is also about the present system because it affects what we have now

However, the present moment system intensifies the pain of loss by activating the amygdala

Prompts changes in our judgment when deciding how best to manage risk

Things that trigger desire dopamine are also prominent.

The reason for this is simply because if you noticed every detail of the world around you, you would be overwhelmed

Honorary member of the American Psychiatric Association, winner of the Cullen Foundation Research Award, and published more than 50 behavioral research reports

He has written many screenplays for film and television dramas and was shortlisted for the Best Screenplay Award at the Slandance Film Festival.

Drinking fat house water produces happy molecules

Want to drink will produce dopamine

What a girlfriend likes most is an unexpected surprise from her boyfriend

"The Selfish Gene"

Dopamine circuits in the brain are stimulated only by the possibility of something shiny, no matter how perfect it already is

Dopamine’s motto is “want more”, so it’s also greedy

drug addiction

Schizophrenia

ADHD

Willingness to exercise, low mood and depression

The mountain itself exists, but the imagined experience of being at the top is impossible.

Dopamine keeps us chasing phantoms

When participants produce dopamine, they experience feelings of pleasure, so they go to great lengths to activate these rare cells.

Some scientists have named dopamine the "happy molecule" and the pathway that produces dopamine in the brain is called the "reward circuit."

Happiness is not because of what you have got, but because of what you haven’t got or what you haven’t thought about.

This simple idea provides a chemical explanation for an age-old question: why love fades

Things in the near-body space can be experienced in the present moment

The experience is immediate. When we touch, taste, hold, or hold something, we instantly feel happy, sad, angry, and joyful.

That's the very definition of things in distant space: getting to them takes effort, time, and most of the time planning

It makes sense that the human mind is designed to differentiate things this way: it uses one system to deal with what you have and another system to deal with what you don't have.

But when the brain processes distant space, there is one chemical that has a greater impact than all the others: dopamine, which is associated with anticipation and possibility

From pursuit to possession, from eager anticipation to careful care. These skills vary greatly

And sustainable love shifts your expectations of the future to the experience of the present, from fantasizing about any possibility to embracing reality with all its imperfections.

This transition is not easy to make, so none of us would turn down an easy way out of the difficulty.

Early love is like a merry-go-round at the foot of a bridge

Dopamine is a molecule that fosters a feeling of insatiability. Once he sleeps with someone, his immediate goal becomes finding his next partner

From a dopamine perspective, possession is boring, only obtaining is interesting

Our brains have to transition from future-oriented dopamine to a present-oriented certain chemicals, a series of neurotransmitters we call “present molecules.”

Most people are familiar with their names, including serotonin, oxytocin, endorphins (the brain’s equivalent of morphine), and endocannabinoids (the brain’s equivalent of marijuana)

Early love or "passionate love" only lasts 12 to 18 months. After that, for a couple to remain attached to each other they need to develop a different kind of love, which is called "companionate love."

Although the circuits of dopamine and present molecules work together, in most cases they work against each other.

It’s not easy to say goodbye to the dopamine rush that makes you seek new love and crave passion, but having the ability to do so is a sign of maturity and a step toward lasting happiness.

Dopamine represents obsession and craving, while the chemicals most associated with long-term relationships are oxytocin and vasopressin

Vasopressin is like a "good husband hormone," while dopamine is the opposite

Testosterone: The Catalyst of Sexual Attraction

Sexual desire in both men and women is triggered by testosterone

Women produce smaller amounts of testosterone in their ovaries

Testosterone and dopamine have a special relationship

The bittersweet feeling created by distance and moderation is the result of this chemical reaction

Why should you save the first time until after marriage?

This is a future that exists in the fiery imagination, but 12 to 18 months later, when reality becomes clear, this imagination will be shattered. what will happen next

In many cases, it's all over

Alternatively, passionate love might transform into something more lasting

Hunger is something that happens right now

It conveys this message by creating a feeling of "want", usually excitement

Broadly speaking, saying something is "important" is almost the same as saying it has something to do with dopamine.

When something comes along that is beneficial to our lasting survival, without giving it a second thought, dopamine makes us get it now, whether we like it or not, or need it now.

"What shall we do tomorrow?" they asked themselves as they chewed their food, forgetting the fact that

People tend to imagine the best possible future

These two feelings are generated by two different systems in the brain, so what we want is often what we don't like

"Like" involves different brain circuits than desire circuits, and uses present chemicals, rather than dopamine, to send messages

It's natural to confuse wanting with liking

never satisfied

Drugs fundamentally different from natural dopamine triggers

When the dopamine system is at rest, it is fired at a rate of 3 to 5 times per second

But when it's excited, its firing rate surges to 20 to 30 times per second

When the expected reward doesn't materialize, the rate of dopamine firing drops to zero, and it feels bad

Addiction is not a sign of weakness or lack of willpower

Whether a thing is easy to obtain is a key factor in whether it is easy to become addicted.

The opposite circuit to the desire circuit may be called the "dopamine control circuit"

Desire circuits end in parts of the brain that spark excitement and passion

The control circuit goes to the frontal lobe, the part of the brain that is responsible for logical thinking.

It provides us with the tools to understand, analyze and model the world around us

When people stretch out and take up a lot of space, they are considered dominant, or in control

Instead, they are considered submissive when they tighten their limbs and take up as little space as possible

If one person touches his face or makes a gesture, the other person will do the same

But this time it's different

We submit to their will - driven by controlled dopamine, their self-efficacy is fully expressed

There's a good reason our brains evolved the way they do: It's not wise to compete in a game you can't win

If you find that your opponent has high expectations for success, it will be less easy for you to win.

It can also use planning, strategy and abstraction capabilities

"Resisting temptation appears to have a psychological cost in that participants are later more likely to give up when faced with setbacks."

If you're on a diet, the more you resist temptation, the more likely you are to fail next time

In motivational enhancement therapy (MET), patients try to tolerate feelings of resentment and deprivation, a.k.a. the dopamine punishment of disappointment, because they know it will lead to better outcomes

Let him express his desire for a better life

As the old saying goes: “We don’t believe what we hear, but we believe what we say.”

Desire is triggered by cues: drugs, alcohol, and things that remind the addict of drugs and alcohol

Alcoholics treated with cognitive behavioral therapy learn to fight cue-induced cravings in many different ways

The feeling of guilt in the moment is a powerful motivator (your mother probably took advantage of this too)