four elements
Observe rather than comment
Rejection frequency and bad adjectives
Feelings rather than thoughts
request rather than command
Vagueness is a need
Specifically the request
Positive and specific
eg: I hope you can spend ten minutes chatting with me every day
Reverse can easily cause resentment
eg:I hope you don’t ignore me
Reasons for estrangement
1. Not showing yourself
2 misunderstandings
3 Harm the interests of the other party
Apologize sincerely for doing something wrong
The reason why aesthetics changes is because
Because it is the product of binary opposition.
Judgment cannot be eternal because it exists in human concepts, and human concepts have limitations
The harmony of three views does not mean the harmony of everything
The same requirement can be achieved in different ways
physical/spiritual parents
Don't break the rules
Make children believe in authority and cultivate concentration
Parents only have the right to make suggestions, not decisions
What you think is a detour may not be a detour to others.
Prepare for the worst consequences in advance
The motive is to love her and protect her feelings
Society tries to make everyone look the same
Perpetrators and victims often coexist
The more bad we think of others, the more hurt we will get
victim mindset
Compromise yourself and vent your anger on the other person, thinking that the other person has harmed you
Only when you compromise and give up can others hurt and force you
We are weak ourselves, so we hate others being strong.