driving force

Target

perseverance

More from two network systems: game/social command system and exploration/desire system

Find the only one, be the first, live every day

Find your "only" mission

The practice of long-term goals will last throughout our lives

Like a compass, let us not deviate from the direction of "meaning"

Become a “leading player” in a certain niche

The goal backwards method is to work backwards from the future to today step by step, and break down the goals according to time.

live every day

Carefully make your own daily action list (To do list)

Success is not about doing more things, but doing the most important things.

After doing the most important thing, other things will become easier or unnecessary." That is to find the "leverage solution" of things

Leverage is determined by a simple formula, which is the value or impact produced per unit of time invested.

Leverage ratio is a measure of efficiency and a reference standard for judging whether something is valuable.

Willpower is the same thing as what we usually call self-control. With it, we can stay focused and eliminate distractions.

“Willpower is a finite resource that diminishes over time.”

What you believe will become

People with a growth mindset believe that their intelligence and skills can be improved through hard work.

Just change your mindset and believe in yourself

Mature passion is not like fireworks. It starts with a little curiosity, then gets a lot of investment and development, and then continues to deepen throughout a lifetime.

If you want to keep completing challenge after challenge, you can't just rely on willpower. You also need to find ways to make the tasks interesting, meaningful, and well-defined.

Jumping to a conclusion (usually negative) without any factual basis.

Just like in a tunnel, you can only see the part but not the whole picture. You can't see the mountain even if you are blinded by a leaf.

Believe that the bad results are your fault, and do not consider other more reasonable explanations, even if the bad results were not caused by you or you have no control over the event.

Contrary to individuation, people with externalized thinking always think that it is the fault of the outside world, inappropriately and automatically attribute responsibility to others or the external world. They are unable to see the factors they can control and the responsibilities they can bear, and then suffer victimization. mentality.

Overestimating negative events and underestimating positive events leads to catastrophizing things. Despair because of small setbacks. Exaggerate the negatives and ignore the positives. Any good thing feels insignificant. When you lose a game, you feel: "This is a stain on my life, my career is over." (Exaggeration, catastrophizing) "What does it matter? It doesn't matter just one game." (Minification)

Making general judgments based on a small number of experiences and drawing broad conclusions from a single incident or one-sided evidence.

Treat emotions as facts and ignore or discount other evidence. For example, it is easy to focus on negative events and not see any positive events.

It is also called "black and white thinking", "polarized thinking" and "dualized thinking". People with this way of thinking view life in an absolute way: either good or bad; either successful or failed, with no middle value, no percentage thinking, and difficulty accepting "good enough" or "partial success."

Thinking that you know what other people think, even if they don't say it, you think you know their feelings and motivations. The tendency to interpret the actions of others as a negative reaction, even without any evidence. For example, when my boss didn’t say hello to me, I thought “he must hate me.” When I was sick and delayed at work during this period, I felt that "my colleagues must think I am fragile and very annoying."

Have a measuring stick for how you or others should behave, and feel disappointed, frustrated, anxious, or angry when your performance does not meet your expectations and standards.