Cognitive dissonance (experience, emotion, subjectivity, objectivity, reality, assumptions)

⑴. Thinking set (habit): The habit of understanding things in the past may affect the way of understanding things later, and will not change with time and events.

⑵. Self-protection mechanism (concealment): It is not necessarily that you cannot understand the objectivity of things, but because of the self-protection mechanism, people will stick to their own opinions.

Self-esteem is a spiritual need of people. However, I respect my wise thoughts, proficient skills, humorous and interesting conversation, incisive arguments, noble character and humble attitude. Therefore, I can only use stubbornness, contradictory, attacks, unreasonable arguments, etc. to make my stubbornness remain in vanity. Develop in the contentment of the heart. This will inevitably affect normal interactions with others.

Performance: Emotional instability, poor social adaptability, indifference to the surrounding environment or people, prone to friction with others, poor interpersonal relationships

Harm: I feel depressed, but cannot patiently listen to others, so I have no way to resolve my psychological accumulation, and finally fall into the quagmire of psychopathy.

⑴. Frequently interacting with people who are well-educated, good at socializing (polite speech), flexible or open-minded and easy-going will often change or weaken one's stubbornness.

⑵. Associating between a stubborn person and a stubborn person will make both parties more stubborn.

Sensitive and suspicious

So jealous

High self-esteem

don't accept criticism

Impulsive and cunning

lack of humor

break up with friends

Breaking up with lover

Discord between husband and wife

Father-son antagonism, etc.

⑴.Sensual stubbornness

⑵. Stubborn memory representation (memory representation: when the things perceived in the past do not appear in front of you, you can still reproduce the image of the thing in your mind)

⑶. Emotional stubbornness

No one is perfect, this is an objective fact, there is no need to cover up your shortcomings and mistakes

Don't talk too much or pretend to understand. (Sublimation) Direct your energy to your studies or career, so that the abnormal "energy" of vanity can be transformed and achieve psychological balance.

Respect and trust others and cultivate a tolerant attitude towards others

Don’t be overly appreciative of your own achievements or talk about the shortcomings of others. Be willing to accept new knowledge and new things, and don’t care about trivial things.

Strengthen self-regulation and learn to use psychological adjustment methods of emotional transformation

Take the initiative to admit your mistakes and don’t stubbornly stick to your own opinions