Reasons for expecting quick success

Tell yourself: I have shortcomings, I need time, I can’t do it overnight

I will use whatever is given to me, and then I will exchange it for something that can be exchanged after accumulating it to a certain level.

The poorer the ability, the more unrealistic and fragile perfectionism tends to be. They are unrealistic because they don’t understand.

We can only keep trying to adapt and "keep moving forward in the unknown"

If you cannot tolerate the existence of the unknown, it will add countless anxiety. Anxiety is one of the root causes of time waste and inefficiency

consequences of anxiety

Effective strategy: When there is a problem that cannot be solved, write it down first and then move on.

People tend to underestimate the power of the environment

The more dissatisfied you are with the status quo, the stronger your desire to get rid of the status quo, and this desire will eventually make a person lose his way.

Accepting the status quo is the best strategy. Do whatever you have, use whatever you have, do everything well, and use everything well.

Don’t always feel miserable (this will make people feel sorry for themselves and waste energy and time), but find ways to find fun in any situation

Do the right thing in the right way

Almost all stupid behaviors come from denying reality and escaping from reality. Only by accepting reality can we be down to earth and avoid being impetuous and aiming too high.

By recording, thinking and reflecting from time to time, you will become better and better at identifying those unrealistic thoughts and then get rid of their influence. This is the difference.

It may be painful to accept the reality 100%, but there is no other way to wake up

Hofstadter's Law: The actual time it takes to complete a task will always exceed the planned time.

We have to deal with the unknown, and from unfamiliarity to familiarity, it takes time to learn, and this process is insurmountable.

As long as you do things, problems will inevitably arise, this is the reality.

The root cause of low efficiency is avoiding difficulties

The vast majority of any task is boring and uninteresting

Think before you act: what, why, how

The method of thinking needs to start with understanding the content, and constantly subdivide and dismantle tasks. The more specific the better.

Such a habit will make a person realistic and down-to-earth. This is both a habit and an acquired skill.

Improving efficiency means that two tasks that could only be completed serially can now be completed in parallel - active parallelism

Another method is to divide your time into time slices. Only use this ability when you have too many tasks and too little time.

Once you form the habit of dividing tasks carefully, your efficiency will increase unconsciously.

Avoiding responsibility will bring relief, but that is precisely the "unbearable lightness of life"

"A Strange Life" Events--Time Diary

For a week, record how much time you spent on what you just finished every day.

Record expenses every day and set a time budget every day

Distinguish between important and unimportant

Long-term planning is an ability that needs to be learned through practice

Planning is important, but action is even more important

Although there are times when I don’t want to go anymore, I know that it’s just my brain’s thoughts, not my thoughts. As long as I realize this, there is no struggle.

If you want to change yourself, or are dissatisfied with your current situation, then keep everything simple, choose a task that you think will bring about change, and then do it.

The key to achieving your goals is whether you can learn from each setback.

The most important thing is to act immediately

Start to consciously control yourself and stop yourself from doing things that have no practical significance.

There is always only one most important task - the task that really helps achieve the goal.

practice

Creating processes for common tasks is a habit that must be developed

Any action can be completed accurately after practicing it for a certain number of times, even unconsciously

The fundamental reason why many people give up on doing things halfway is that they have never thought of designing an acceptance mechanism for their performance when performing tasks.

Before doing something, take out a pen and paper and write down each predetermined acceptance criterion

Learning is the behavior with the highest return on investment

The important starting point for "learning" is to learn at least one skill

Acquiring more knowledge is almost the only way we can expand our minds

Basic approach: experience → trial and error → observation → reading

Thinking correctly is the main means of acquiring true knowledge

The biggest obstacle in the learning process---empiricism

Individual experience is limited - everyone is more or less limited by their own experience

Group experience is limited

Writing→Reading→Logic----Thinking in a scientific way

There is knowledge that is contrary to existing experience, and a lot of time and energy are invested in learning and mastering "scientific methodology"

First Lady Rosalynn Carter: Good leaders take people where they want to go, and great leaders take people where they should be but never thought they should be.

The basis of self-study ability is reading comprehension ability

Requires repeated training

Writing ability occupies an important position in self-study ability

Practical ability is the foundation for self-learning ability to eventually transform into real value

Always keep an open mind

Among all humans, less than 4% of people can think about problems in a simple and clear way

Independent thinking is just a process of using your own brain to deduce a conclusion when you know it from others, to see if there are any loopholes and unreasonable aspects in the process of reaching the conclusion, and to measure whether the conclusion is reasonable or not.

"Superstitious authority" itself is a typical trap

Refusing to think independently and leaving the thinking work to others not only does not save time, on the contrary, it is a waste of time.

The two most important reasons for logical errors

The most important thing in learning any knowledge is to understand all its basic concepts

Almost all learning difficulties and thinking difficulties are caused by not paying enough attention when learning basic concepts before - no exceptions

One root cause of refusing to accept uncertainty is the fear of complexity and the desire for simplicity

The environment will "very intelligently" respond to the actions of everyone in it

Analyze cause and effect, the work we must do before deciding whether to accept a point of view

It is actually very easy to achieve "thorough thinking" - from now on, for a long period of time (such as 6 months), always pay attention to every thought you have or have been instilled in you, and identify the cause and effect relationship among them. , apply the principles mentioned above one by one

More than 70% of people cannot tell the difference between the original proposition and the converse proposition

Failure to understand the burden of proof is a common reason for thinking "astray"

When using cases to illustrate the truth, always pay attention to the actual logical relationship between the case and the conclusion, and try to avoid generalizations.

People can make completely opposite decisions based on exactly the same reasons

The so-called "emotional intelligence", simply looked at from the root, is still the ability to think about problems.

Once you realize the existence of opposing arguments, you should accept "which one is more reasonable and realistic"

Although there is no logical relationship between arguments and arguments, they can be tied together in an "obviously reasonable" manner.

It is not only scientists who have to follow the principle of "bold assumptions and careful verification", nor only expert-level journalists who have to distinguish "the difference between opinions and facts". In fact, everyone needs to clearly understand "truth" and The huge difference between "perception"

Individual experience often has biases of one kind or another

Instead of focusing on the winners, learn from the losers

Deep-rooted fear in human nature and the cowardice brought about by fear

Fear needs to be overcome, courage needs to be accumulated

Those who suddenly give up the discussion and become irrational are simply letting fear take over and their courage is exhausted at that moment.

Language is a cheap (even free) and effective aid

The following sentence patterns help to think independently and stimulate thinking

Other sentence patterns should be deliberately avoided

Most people don't know how to listen effectively. Failed communication often results from the listener’s negligence

You must find a way to obtain one or some knowledge that can be used to identify the validity of known information - judgment knowledge

Continuously collecting, sorting, and revising your own judgment knowledge is like weaving a filter for yourself to prevent invalid conceptual knowledge from entering.

In order to truly listen effectively, the most important thing to refrain from is "premature questioning." Even if you question, you must wait until the other party has finished speaking.

During the listening process, we can use excess brain power to process information from both directions

Believe that your memory is worse than you think

Only by remembering the key points can we straighten out the logical relationship between the key points.

facts and opinions

Once you decide to listen, you should take the initiative to help the speaker enter the "confusing" state

Become a person who can speak more through hard work and accumulation

Be sure to find ways to do admirable things from time to time, so that people will take the initiative to ask you to be friends.

Without education, training, or self-struggle, people may not be able to get rid of the state of symbiosis mentally throughout their lives.

3 principles for discussion

In order to ensure smooth communication, it is often necessary to add a verification mechanism or feedback mechanism

To deeply understand the limitations of experience, to get rid of empiricism requires not only an understanding of the truth itself, but also courage

Be alert at all times

Use records to enable yourself to remember more experiences

Learn from other people’s experiences through observation and reading

Use analogies to bridge the gap between the unknown and the known

Have time to read - the more complex the better, the more the better, improve your ability to receive new things

Wait patiently to gain experience that cannot be gained quickly

When you encounter a problem you don’t understand or an idea you’re not sure about, it’s best to write it down immediately.

In fact, it’s not that you are not interested in what you are doing, but that you are incapable of doing well in what you are currently doing.

Often you don’t have to be interested to do something well, but you have to be interested only after you have done it well.

The correct way to train children is to select the things that the child is most likely to do better than others based on the child's situation, and then rack your brains to help the child learn and do well, do better than the average person, and do better than anyone else. --interest appears

The so-called "no interest" is often just the result. If it is used as a reason for "not doing a good job", the final multiplication is that a lot of time is wasted.

Methods are important, but compared to "study", methods are almost negligible.

All learning success depends on only two things-strategy and persistence

Persistence actually means repetition, which means investing a lot of time

"Good ways" vary from person to person. Instead of constantly looking for "better ways", it's better to start taking action now.

Deep feelings of pain can distort or obliterate people's ability to perceive other things

The most common misunderstanding is that when we feel pain, we always unconsciously imagine ourselves as the most painful person in the world.

Ways to prevent the brain from forgetting and “repeating past mistakes”

Comparison is relative, and relativeness will never end

Spend your time on the joy and happiness that can be obtained in no time, and then live without regrets, enjoy yourself and suffer peacefully.

People who waste time and waste their years have one common characteristic - desperately trying to control things that they cannot fully control, but completely losing control in the places that they can really control. Believing in luck is a manifestation of lack of self-control.

The weak believe in luck, the strong only focus on cause and effect

If a person is willing to face his true self frankly, he will eventually find that all the embarrassments he faces are more or less his own responsibility.

Luck is when opportunity comes when you are ready

For an individual, what is more important than connections is the resources he possesses

Everyone prefers fair exchange

Concentrate on changing the things you can change, temporarily ignore the things you cannot change, and focus on building yourself up to become an excellent person, a useful person, and an independent person, which is more important than anything else.

stop teasing others

Forget your own strengths

If you determine a direction or goal in advance, you may accumulate materials that you never imagined.

First spend considerable time and energy to lock in a direction or goal. After determining that it is realistic and feasible, use the power of your mind to invest more time in this direction, a little more time than more. Treat time as a friend and move forward.

When time stays with you long enough, it will reward your patience accordingly.

Always encourage those around you, even if they are somewhat blind

When we keep encouraging everyone, the biggest beneficiary is actually ourselves. We begin to enter a state that others cannot imagine and become a person who does not need encouragement from others.

When budgeting your time, be sure to leave room

To be a normal person, you need to do a lot of things besides work and study every day

Most things in the world are the same, and you don't necessarily have to do it to the extreme. 100 is a perfect score, and 61.8 is enough. "Diminishing marginal benefits"

Pick one thing that you think is the most important, and then make a schedule for yourself to ensure that you focus on this thing for at least 2 hours a day in the next week or even a month.

We should adjust our pace of life to be slower

Everything worth doing is worth doing slowly and for a long time

Never blindly try to reduce sleep time

Try not to reduce the time you spend communicating with your family

It’s best not to give up your social time

Long-term observation and thinking are beneficial to training one's ability to be calm. Anyway, how others evaluate, think, and discuss has no way to affect a person's state. However, once someone starts to be upset, restless, or even behave in a boring way, he or she has been influenced by others.

Patience is the prerequisite for success in any work or study