Chapter 1: Fear is not “out there”
1. Fear is not outside, it is always in people’s hearts
2. Fear cannot be escaped: Fear cannot use external methods to solve internal problems.
3. Feeling (emotion) → interpretation (idea) → pressure
4. Love is empowering, fear is unempowering.
5. Victim awareness
⑴. Originated from: weak sense of self-worth and fear
⑵. Occupy the moral superiority and sense of justice, disguised as "I am better than you", at the expense of becoming increasingly powerless
Article 2 It’s fear that makes life so tiring
1. Fear affects the smooth flow of work.
2. The fear of death is superficial, the real fear is the sense of personal annihilation (experience/experience ability)
3. Reduce the focus on “form” and focus on the essence/substance of things
4. The fundamental solution to obsessive-compulsive disorder: find the fear behind it and eliminate it
5. Always examine the motivations behind doing things, and don’t be busy because of guilt, sense of making mistakes, fear, anxiety, worry, etc.
Part Three: Declare War on Your Inner Fear
1. Reasons why you are afraid to face your inner self
⑵. Sense of making a mistake → rejection/defense
⑶. Feeling inferior and feeling that one has big problems
⑷. As an innocent victim, unwilling to take responsibility for things caused by emotions
2. Face your heart
⑴.Doesn’t mean the problem is big
⑵.Guilt and fear consume the most life energy.
⑶. Make up your mind: Take 100% responsibility for your own emotions/life
3. Acceptance itself is the best change
4. Always examine pleasure: fear to survive → find pleasure to deal with fear → harm the body over time (alcohol, overeating, etc.)
5. Standards for doing things: Do not do things against your will (behind doing things against your will are emotions, such as fear of disapproval by others, fear of survival, etc.)
Chapter 4: Overcoming the Fear in Your Heart
1. The more you are afraid of something, the easier it is for your consciousness to fixate on it, and the easier it is for the thing you fear to happen.
2. Eliminate fear
⑴.Allow fear instead of denying and suppressing it
⑵. Be aware of emotions, accept and feel the body
3. Allocate time and energy: Instead of dealing with the specific thing you fear, deal with the actual physical sensations.
4. True letting go is without emotion. Because there is no emotion, there will be no regrets in the future.
5. The deeper the fear travels, the greater the inner freedom.
6. The sense of strength and the sense of direction go together: with the sense of strength, there is the sense of direction.
7. What happens is not important, what is important is how you face it
Chapter 5: Destroying the “Sense of Making a Mistake”
1. Self-blame: If you subconsciously feel that you have made a mistake, you will believe that you should be punished.
2. Deal with guilt: Pay attention to the sensations in your body and transform your thoughts into physical sensations
3. When you feel guilty or wrong, deal with your emotions first and calm down before deciding what to do and how to do it.
4. Vicious cycle: New mistakes and punishments aggravate the original sense of making mistakes, laying hidden dangers for the next bigger mistake.
Some people even deliberately commit crimes or do bad things to relieve their deep sense of guilt. When caught by the police and punished, they will be relieved because subconsciously they want to be punished.
Chapter 6 Clearing emotions is the “king way”
1. Whether the decision is wise depends on the degree of emotional cleansing
2. The best gift is not how much money you give to others, or material help, but it is how you can relax others, especially those around you.
⑴.Do not infect your own negative emotions to others
Chapter 7: Don’t be hard on yourself
1. Self-acceptance (human nature has weaknesses) will make emotions smaller and smaller, and the solution to the problem will become clearer.
2. The more you are yourself, the more you will want others to live happily too.
3. As long as you are moving in the general direction and developing more and more in a good direction, it is good.
4. The essence of psychological problems: You can’t live with yourself
Don't compete with yourself
5. Humility: Be willing to admit that people are prone to making mistakes (human nature has weaknesses) and that you can make fewer or no mistakes.
6. "Pretend" to be mentally ill: Want to be satisfied while pretending to be "unnecessary", causing inner conflict and personality split, forming a hypocrite
7. Telling the truth, doing real things, and being a real person will make people more and more confident and like themselves; falsehood is extremely energy-consuming, and one lie requires ninety-nine lies to cover it up.
Chapter 8 Let your heart become powerful
1. Awareness that hinders people from moving upward
⑴. Think that they have been "cheated": interpret "good" experiences as "cheated" experiences, focus on the perceived negative aspects; attract the experience of being cheated, and strengthen and strengthen their awareness of being "cheated"
⑵. Victim consciousness: Enjoying "moral indignation", condescending, blaming others, evading responsibility, becoming increasingly powerless
⑶. Don’t believe that you will get better: Pretend to be sick to gain/benefit, get more care and attention from others, and have a reason not to work; say that you are more miserable than others, and you will win and gain energy "moral superiority"
2. The inner part determines what the outer part says or does.
3. Inner Saint and Outer King
⑴. Inner Saint: Have a sufficient sense of self-worth and do not need to base the value of one's existence on the evaluation of others.
⑵. Outer King: Influence and infect the people around you to treat yourself accordingly.
4. Consciously approach positive energy and beautiful things, and stay away from negative energy.
5. Only want "face", not "lizi": play with emptiness, appearance, vanity, spend a lot of money to buy luxury goods to show off, and are unwilling to spend a little money to protect your heart
6. Improve your inner self and reduce the time you spend trying to figure out other people’s psychology.
Chapter 9 Find what you really like
1. Determine whether the job is what you want
⑵. Interests, hobbies, talents
⑶. Sense of pleasure and accomplishment
2. The fastest growing/practice concentration (attention): focus on what you like to do and turn it into your own career
3. Necessary for starting a business
⑴. Calm your mind and avoid losing yourself.
⑵.Self-healing/adjustment ability
⑶.Dare to start all over again
Chapter 10 Repair your emotional relationship
1. The secret to improving interpersonal relationships
⑴. Emotional support: Put down the air of making excuses and give the other party emotional support.
⑵.Value confirmation: You are worthy of being loved and valuable
2. Sense of self-worth: feeling of “worthy” or “unworthy”
Weak sense of self-worth: Subconsciously believe that one is "not worthy" of an outstanding member of the opposite sex, and seek out members of the opposite sex who are weaker than themselves, thereby maintaining psychological superiority.
3. Reasons why good women fall into the hands of bad men
⑴. The pain of being "abandoned" in childhood or early childhood: not being taken seriously by adults since childhood, having no sense of self-worth, or even being treated as a burden
⑵.Lack of father’s love and sense of security since childhood
4. When choosing a spouse in love, the mental health level of the other party is directly related to the quality of the long-term relationship between the two parties.
5. Before starting a new relationship, clean up the remaining issues from past emotional experiences.
6. Past relationships will leave behind emotional problems
⑴.Sadness "I can never find such a good thing again"
⑵.Despair "I have no chance of love at all"
⑶. Angry "No man/woman is good at anything"
⑷. Self-blame “I’m sorry for him/her”
⑸.Ashamed “I don’t deserve it”
Chapter 11 The Heart Sutra of Wealth
1. Free things are the most expensive
⑴. Poor consciousness, only interested in getting. Over time, people will stay away and avoid them.
⑵. If the provider does things for others for free for a long time, it is inevitable that his heart will be unbalanced, making the relationship between the two parties subtle and complicated.
2. Money is not obtained from the outside “from the outside in”, but is attracted from the inner abundance consciousness “from the inside out”.
3. Awareness of abundance → economic abundance → financial freedom
4. Put the quality of work first (sense of achievement/pleasure, sense of solidity/power) → making money lasts longer
Chapter 12: Connecting to Inner Inspiration
1. do things
⑴.Inspiration/intuition
innate, sense of certainty
No need to think too much
Intuition that has not been interfered by emotions and distracting thoughts is particularly accurate.
Effortless, effortless, efficient and energy-saving
⑵.Thinking/Thinking
The day after tomorrow, not sure
It consumes a lot of energy. I often have to think about things and can’t make up my mind.
Simple problems become complicated
Inefficient and not necessarily accurate
2. Reading thousands of books is not as good as traveling thousands of miles. Traveling thousands of miles is not as good as reading countless people. Reading countless people is not as good as showing the way by a famous teacher. Being guided by a famous teacher is not as good as enlightening yourself.
3. Spiritual growth
⑴. Direction: concept → realization/realization; follow the brain → follow the heart
⑵.Method: Solve the problem of integrating knowledge and action; do not learn advanced but irrelevant things that cannot be used.
Chapter 13: Live life naturally
1. Let nature take its course: expand individual limitations → nature (detachment)
2. The natural ability of life itself (natural wisdom): problems will naturally be solved in some way
3. Let go of control over goal realization (rhythm/method/process), which means letting go of "attachment" and "obsession". You will not feel frustrated and avoid depression.
4. In a relaxed state, the body’s self-regulation ability takes over.
5. Find a balance between work and entertainment life
6. Live in the process
⑴. Treat life as a result and live in the "present" and look forward to the "future", full of tension and anxiety
⑵. Treat life as a process, and every moment is complete
⑶. There is no liberation here and now, and it may not be possible in the future.
7. Avoid needing to gain recognition from others out of a weak sense of self-worth. Help others deliberately. Subconsciously, you want to get the pleasure of being condescending.
Chapter 14 From "unconscious" to "conscious"
1. The meaning of pain: Awakening the ability to save yourself (self-adjustment, self-repair, self-transcendence)
2. The core of psychological change: unconscious → conscious
3. Prevent being deceived - reasons for being exploited
⑵. Only see the advantages but not the disadvantages
⑶. Emotional vacancy, especially among the elderly
⑷. Not realizing that they have been deceived, and in turn deceive friends and relatives.
⑸.Think it’s real when you see it
⑹. Admiring vanity and being confused by high things
⑺.Coveting for petty gains
4. Penetrate people’s psychological defense mechanisms
⑴. Arrogance is due to inferiority
⑶. Deliberately emphasizing what is really lacking
5. Being really stupid and pretending to be stupid
⑴. It’s really stupid because you don’t realize the real motivation and driving force.
⑵. Pretending to be stupid is a mature expression of consciousness.
6. Set goals well
⑴. If the positioning is on the top, the result may be in the middle.
⑵. Positioned as medium, the result may be removed.
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