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Overview of Love and Marriage
This is a mind map about love and marriage in general
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Overview of Love and Marriage
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love and love
in love
what is love
Love is a universal social relationship category, and individuals are only half of this relationship.
Love is an instinctive manifestation of the reproduction of species that is generally hidden in genes.
Generally speaking, love is the previous stage of marriage.
The relationship between men and women is another manifestation of family relationships
Universal: The relationship between elders and children is similar to that between men and women, a kind of family affection.
Characteristics: Very curious, very emotional, fluctuating mentality, deep memory
The evolutionary psychological value and attraction part are combined, and the aversion part that cannot be reflected in the growth of character pursuit values is promoted.
In love, when faced with pressure from the environment, family, study, and work, do you have to choose between yourself or face it together and make your own arrangements?
Love is the best gift from God for self-change
Regardless of success or failure, love or marriage is a rare opportunity for self-change.
The easiest time to fall in love is the rebellious period of youth, just starting work, and college.
Standard patterns and key node guidance
Falling in love is part of the standard routine of life
Another important node in life after the college entrance examination
The development of key nodes in love and objects with different attributes will fundamentally change the different development directions of oneself.
correct view of love
People are teased and attracted; not chased or licked.
Efforts may not necessarily result in rewards, but improving value (attractiveness) will definitely result in rewards!
The essence of love is mutual attraction and vague availability release
This is the most core grasp in maintaining a relationship. You should not pursue a certain extreme, but maintain a balance at all times.
You need to not only attract her and make her like you, but also let her know that you intend to date her and release the possibility of intimate communication.
It’s best for men to think like women when dealing with women
Male linear thinking targets
Results-oriented output for girls
Male competitiveness, decisiveness in killing, uprightness, one man in charge, and the aura of commanding the overall situation are the most attractive components. The content of the chat is actually not as important as imagined. What is important is the attraction that the chat brings to the other party and the direction of the development of the chat atmosphere.
Posture and performance
Love is an instinct and a skill
Being in love is happiness (secreting dopamine and endorphins)
Pursuers generally strike up conversations and escalate to determine relationship anxiety
Initiative, create opportunities, seize opportunities, and always lean towards intimacy.
Initiative. In the relationship between the sexes, one party always takes the initiative. Dare to talk about coquettishness and Kino to avoid regrets.
The one who is bold, overcomes fear, and takes the initiative is liked by females.
Careful Keyword Context Window Identification Emotional Judgment Orderly Advance and Retreat
Thick-skinned, proactive, appropriate and principled SIO and Kino, rather than being a dog-licker and harassing
The atmosphere of taking the initiative and setting the game will make the food you cook taste delicious.
Current situation and vigilance
Today’s mood is low, men are soft and women are arrogant
emotional disorder social phobia
Too much love can't be achieved, leaving only men and women
Frustration, sadness, divorce and remarriage
Abandon betrayal and pay to no avail
Emotional crisis, emotional exploitation
Emotional fraud, mental manipulation
Eat, drink and dance
One night stand, unintentional game
Learn and love
Which comes first, growth or love?
perfect statistical probability
Which half of the total class (male and female) or half of the 1.4 billion people has a higher success rate in finding the perfect partner?
Encourage love that is helpful for learning and punish love that delays learning.
If a person has both male and female friends in college, he will be the unluckiest in his life. Why?
Because you don’t have any other classmates, you only have him, because we Chinese people are very knowledgeable. The two of them are a pair. Will we be light bulbs? We just avoided it. You don’t have any classmates in the class. The most important thing for you to study in college is to have a relationship with classmates. If you don’t have that, you will be determined to him, and he will be determined to you. Then you will be expelled again in the fourth grade. Also dropped. Well, in fact, I have observed for a long time that dating in college is rarely successful, and the success rate is very low. So why would you do such a thing? Well, so I publicly advise everyone that after graduating from college, you can start to think about which of my previous emotions is more suitable, and then contact him again. You will not affect other people’s observations. This is good for you. The most beneficial one, and you were more mature at that time, so you knew how to choose.
Physiological needs and significance
Embrace
Hugging is a way of expressing feelings in our lives. Usually, people think that hugging can promote feelings and interpersonal relationships between each other. In fact, from the perspective of self-health, hugging will bring us the following seven things: Big benefit.
1. Close interpersonal relationships. When hugging, the body releases the euphoric hormone oxytocin (also known as the "cuddle hormone"), making people feel warm and comfortable. Oxytocin also enhances social connections between people. Matt Hertenstein, a psychologist at DePauw University in the United States, said that the neuropeptide oxytocin can enhance loyalty and trust between spouses.
2. Lower blood pressure. The euphoric hormones released by your body during a hug not only make you feel happy, but are also good for your health. When you hug, the sensation on your skin activates pressure receptors called Pacinian corpuscles, which then send signals to the vagus nerve area of the brain, which is responsible for lowering blood pressure.
3. Reduce fear. A study on fear and self-esteem found that hugging and touching significantly reduced fear of death. Multiple studies have found that hugging, including hugging teddy bears, can help alleviate existential fears.
4. Good for the heart. Hugging your loved ones often is good for your heart health. The results of the experimental study showed that the heart rate of the participants who had no contact with their partners increased by 10 beats/minute, while the heart rates of the participants who hugged their partners only increased by 5 beats/minute.
5. Adults benefit the most from hugs. As we age, hugging and physical contact become increasingly important. Multiple studies have shown that loneliness (especially loneliness in the elderly) can increase stress and be detrimental to health, and hugging can reduce loneliness.
6. Hugs are a natural stress reducer. Hugs instantly lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol in the body, sending a "calm" message to the brain.
7. More hugs in childhood will reduce the pressure in adulthood. An animal experiment at Emory University in the United States found an important link between touch and stress relief, especially early in life, and the same is true for humans. Hugging more during childhood can make children better able to cope with stress as adults.
kiss
Kissing is a "microbial" exchange activity between two people, exchanging 80 million bacteria at one time
After kissing nine times a day, the oral flora of two people will gradually become the same. (The origin of the couple’s appearance)
In addition to inducing kissing disease, kissing can also easily cause Helicobacter pylori infection, leading to stomach problems; causing influenza, chickenpox, tuberculosis, measles and other diseases.
Kissing may sound a bit scary, but don't be totally against it. As long as you keep your mouth clean and personal hygiene, you can kiss with confidence as long as you are healthy.
Benefits of kissing: When kissing, dopamine and endorphins are produced in the brain, which makes people produce pleasure hormones and eliminate unpleasant emotions; when kissing, the heartbeats of both parties will accelerate, promote blood circulation, mobilize adenosine triphosphate, and help burn fat; secreted during kissing Endorphins are hormones that are equivalent to painkillers. The saliva produced during kissing can also automatically produce antibiotics, have an anesthetic effect, and help relieve physical pain; overall, the benefits of kissing outweigh the disadvantages. However, we must also be more vigilant, especially when adults in the family have colds, fevers, oral ulcers, or gastrointestinal problems, do not kiss or kiss babies to avoid infection.
TD (sex life)
1. Exercise
Research from the Pennsylvania Medical College believes that sex is equivalent to jogging. For example, if you have sex three times a week, it is equivalent to jogging 75 kilometers in a year, and the heat energy burned is 7,500 calories.
Regular sex life can promote metabolism. Some people say that sex is like exercise in bed. During sex, you unknowingly deepen your breathing, thereby increasing the amount of oxygen obtained in cells and promoting the functions of various organs and tissues in the body. There seems to be some basis for this.
2. Increase hormone secretion
Men secrete a hormone called deoxyandrostenone every day, and men also need to regularly supplement this type of androgen, because only in this way can they maintain male characteristics.
During sex, especially before orgasm and ejaculation, the hormone that can be naturally released in the body is 3-5 times higher than usual. Therefore, in the West, many men do not need to take medicine to supplement hormones, but hope that the body can release it naturally so as to have masculine temperament. of hormones. For women, estrogen helps women maintain good blood circulation. Women who have regular sex have much higher estrogen levels than women who have sex occasionally.
3. Protect the prostate
Regular ejaculation by sexually mature men can help clear the accumulation of prostatic fluid in the prostate. Every time you ejaculate, 1/5 is sperm and 4/5 is semen, including a large amount of prostate fluid. If there is no ejaculation for a long time, old prostate fluid will accumulate in the prostate.
However, it should be noted that sexual life should not be excessive, because frequent sexual life puts the penis in a state of chronic congestion, leading to prostate hypertrophy or swelling, making it easy to suffer from chronic prostatitis.
However, it should be noted that sexual life should not be excessive, because frequent sexual life puts the penis in a state of chronic congestion, leading to prostate hypertrophy or swelling, making it easy to suffer from chronic prostatitis.
4. Effectively reduce the occurrence of heart disease and myocardial infarction
Sexual life can allow the pelvis, limbs, joints, muscles, and spine to move more, promote blood circulation, and enhance heart function and lung capacity. People who have a harmonious sex life have at least 10% less risk of heart disease than people who have a disharmonious sex life.
However, there are also reports that some people died suddenly during sexual intercourse due to sudden myocardial infarction. Therefore, if the body has found signs of heart disease, you should avoid being too intense during sexual intercourse.
5. Relieve pain
Sexual intercourse (especially during orgasm) can reduce pain, joint pain, low back pain and headaches caused by trauma. The endorphins released during sexual excitement and orgasm can improve the ability to tolerate pain.
6. Reduce stress, aid sleep, and keep the mind young
Nowadays, work is stressful, and many people want to reduce stress. Clubbing, fitness, and playing ball are all modern people's choices to reduce stress. In fact, having sex when people are in a happy mood is the most effective way to reduce mental stress for both men and women.
Women are prone to insomnia if they have no sex life or have a disharmonious sex life, so a perfect sex life can promote sleep.
However, if you are overworked or under great work pressure, you may not be in the mood to have sex, because this will also consume your energy, so don’t force it even if you have no energy.
Proper sex life can help prevent brain aging and promote metabolism, delaying the rate of memory loss.
7. Reduce the occurrence of skin diseases and promote beauty
Poor blood circulation in the skin can lead to skin diseases such as acne and acne. Moderate sex will accelerate blood circulation, balance metabolism, make skin smooth and tender, and prevent and treat skin diseases.
25% of a person's appearance comes from heredity and 75% from behavior, and behavior includes three factors: physical movement, mental activity, and sex. It can be said that regular sex can make people more beautiful, but the reverse is not necessarily true.
8. Semen helps remove vaginal bacteria
Experiments have shown that there is an antibacterial substance in semen - semen cytoplasmin, which can kill Staphylococcus aureus, Streptococcus aureus, Pneumococcus aureus and other pathogenic bacteria.
Although there are ingredients in semen that kill pathogenic bacteria, you should not think that you do not need to go to the hospital for treatment when you are sick. After all, this antiseptic ingredient is very small and is not enough to protect the body from being invaded by pathogenic bacteria. It is misunderstood that frequent sexual intercourse is used as antibiotics.
9. Improve the disease resistance of the immune system
Modern civilized life, air conditioning, traveling by car, air pollution, lack of exercise, etc. have made people's immune systems more fragile than before, and huge work pressure has reduced human immune function.
Sexual life can balance the secretion of the adrenal glands and keep the immune system in a better state. This is opposite to AIDS (acquired immune deficiency) caused by promiscuity.
10. Helps extend the life span of both men and women
In Russia's Chechnya and Transcaucasus regions, there are many long-lived people. A 90-year-old man married a 37-year-old woman and gave birth to 5 children, the youngest of whom was born when his father was 96 years old.
A 135-year-old man said he stopped having sex when he was 127 years old. Studies have shown that the secret of people's longevity in this area is related to their regular sex life.
Sexual awareness and sexual orientation must be correct! Seeing that everything has two sides, the purpose of recommending this article is to remind everyone to pay attention to degree! Otherwise a good thing will turn into a bad thing!
The Law of Attraction Availability (Tao)
The opposites of attraction and availability are unified and balanced, and the equilibrium state is maintained in a stable range.
Give her a box of 1 million, but she won’t get it until 30 years later (impatient)
The persona of the aloof CEO has low 100-point attractiveness. It is impossible for him to be like a star, and there is no possibility.
Attract, attract = attract the other person's attention, attract = attract to oneself, attraction, allure.
People with style, aura and charm bring their own BGM
With attraction, all sense of need will become availability.
Without attraction, all availability will turn into a sense of need.
Only by allowing the other party to recognize a sense of connection can we eliminate the impression of superficial communication.
Demand building attracts
high value display
It starts with appearance (painting style) and falls into talent (value) and loyalty to character (long-term).
The display surface is only a reflection of a person
Give her a broken box with 1 yuan (don’t want it)
Breaking the box is like a dog-licking character. A 100-point usability energy is high, it means being a dog-licking person, it exposes a sense of need, and it means breaking a box.
Chasing and licking only reveal a sense of need and run counter to actual teasing and attraction.
It is forbidden to expose the sense of need. Licking the dog will reduce the attractiveness to 0.
If the other party accepts your revealing attitude, it is a huge window
① Licking the dog = exposure of sense of need = maximum availability (no window appeal at all)
Blindly exposing the sense of need without increasing attractiveness (throwing the box) will produce boredom.
The window through which the other party exposes their sense of need, and the capture window can be directly advanced.
Principle: The sense of need cannot be exposed. The attitude towards communication can be clearly stated. Normal chatting and testing are normal concerns.
Confession = high availability and high need
The essence is to break the original relationship and sail against the current
The premise is to attract, not to attack
Confession without reaching a certain emotional foundation is taboo
Behavioral expressions are the main one, verbal expressions are the supplement
It's the bell of victory, not the horn of charge.
Releasing Availability for no reason is a taboo. Releasing it when the other party does the right thing is a reward, a reward based on your own framework rules.
Women form mate selection standards based on the requirements of evolutionary psychology, and use this to judge the mate. Once the availability of worthless people is released, you will feel worthless no matter how passionate or rich you are, and you may even be unable to change this impression in your lifetime. .
There is a box of 100,000 for her today (it’s okay)
The right way to shape availability
Let the other person identify what I like about her
Let the other person identify the purpose of interacting with her
Let the other party identify their long-term relationship needs
stage
1
No feelings-good feelings-intimacy
Ordinary friends, boyfriend and girlfriend
lover relative
2
Atmosphere - average
first communication
Create an emotional atmosphere
close
first physical contact
build intimacy
marriage
step
How to strike up a conversation
Weapons Confident eyes Friendly smile Sexy beard
Eyes on forehead
Appropriate distance Social Kino
A sense of aura and a stable mentality require a certain amount of basic training.
Speech speed, intonation, smoothness, disability care
Look at each other's traffic lights, disgust window
The topic must be touched and connected to the situation between men and women.
The time period is also private, after 11 p.m.
private environment
newbie
See what light the other party lights up
If you don’t know much, just tell the truth directly.
chat
Never start a new topic
Keywords, energy words, points of interest, identification
Vein threading - Keyword pearl line must be clear
Topic adhesion, keyword inheritance and compound use
You must first catch every word and every emotion of the other party as if it were a real object.
Be objective, based on the key words of her dialogue, cold-read the meaning behind her words to undertake
If you want to start a topic by yourself, it is best to start the topic through girls’ decorations and used things.
Except for the embarrassment of changing the subject
How to accept the answer
Try not to answer questions directly
Indirectly reply to a question in a thread
Naturally funny and not stiff
Saying no = proving yourself incompetent
The size of the action taken over
Information content of answer <number of words in answer Frequency rhythm
cold reading
Cold reading (can understand = fun person)
Keyword identification
Subtext recognition
window recognition
emotion recognition
Enter the other party's chat frame and perform yes and NO (eliminate)
The perception of me comes from personality and behavior energy value
Views of things, objects, others, his own views
She is willing to evaluate, and the more she talks, the wider her emotional window will be and she will advance quickly.
Evaluation of people and things is a window for emotional expression and catharsis. Listen and affirm.
Identification of subtext Identify the meaning behind each sentence (cold reading)
First identify the context, speaking speed, intonation, distance and environment
Then identify the conversation
Kickback questions and options
Give the other party the right to choose without giving them a chance to refuse.
Invite
vague invitation
Role-playing framework to achieve intimacy and proactive technical invitation
Illustration of dating details to set the stage and check the saturation
The obedience test gives the other party the choice to see if he or she will let go.
Impression mechanism (character design)
Impression ratio
Behavioral proportion and score ratio: content 7%, speaking speed and intonation 38%, behavior 55%
Signal energy value Vision Social form Body language
It is useless to express your attitude in words
Attitude expressed through body language and behavior
The image others have of themselves comes from their own description of themselves
Modern people don’t believe what they say
Bored of all talk and no action
Touched by sick guardian
Acting erratically yet sincerely
The language is exaggerated yet true
The core of establishing and maintaining personality lies in behavior
The Lord expresses himself through his actions, speech rate and tone of voice, which is appropriate, gentle and positive..
Topic Language Content
speaking speed intonation behavior
atmosphere mood feeling
Your personality in TA’s eyes
Expression of values of likes and dislikes, three views consistent
In a girl’s mind, what is the purpose of your relationship with her?
Build value, high value, attractiveness, allure
Advantages and disadvantages reflect the attraction part and the disgust part (everyone has advantages and disadvantages, including himself, how to accept his own shortcomings and his/her shortcomings)
What does it look like in TA’s eyes? Beauty is in the eyes of beholder
Standard mechanism (normal behavior)
she
Her passive ASD (reserved mechanism)
Shyness is standard practice
Although I don’t want to be seen through, there is no three hundred taels of silver here.
Of course you have to leave a mask for him and give him a step to take a step back. When the love is deep, you won’t give him a step. Look at the wall with deep love.
Women also have intimacy needs, physical contact needs, sexual desires, and a need to be hugged and loved. And the needs are stronger than those of men of the same age, but they are more reserved than men and will not show it. Isn’t it a bitch to show off casually? This is also the reason why women don’t love men if they are not bad.
waste testing
ioi (Indicator of Interest)
iod (no indicator of interest)
Waste test = ideological rationality
Sensitive surface intentional exposure test
The waste test is a screening mechanism, a sieve and a pit to see if you are a scumbag.
Gun buddy character design Dakeng
Playboy, Cheating Man
Categorizing my attributes by understanding her in my eyes
Tests for compatibility, tolerance, and consistency in words and deeds
The other party needs to know whether to pursue it sincerely or just for fun
Why are you dating me? Isn't it because you are cheating on your feelings?
This has shortcomings and is not good. Are you still willing to accept it?
Why are you dating me? What do I have that is worthy of your pursuit?
Use humor to get out of the hole and provoke her emotional response.
Declares Long-term Relationship Purpose Passes Her Psychological Test
sensitive topics
answer coping methods
First, avoid answering directly (it will lower your worth, the most ineffective way of answering, and the topic terminator)
Answer from the side Answer from a higher level
Don't answer, kick the ball out, find other keywords of the topic, change the topic, like intimacy, close to the scene infinitely
Answers that arouse emotions and cause psychological fluctuations
Deserve a beating answer
Cute answer
rhetorical question answer
Intimacy (Relationship Scenario Simulation) Answers
For example, how many girlfriends have I had and the problem of falling into the water...
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obedience test
Just - request
Bring water, buy things, help with feeding, etc. (equally important as window recognition)
There is a certain sense of intimacy
Observe control and dominance, rejection and acceptance, compliance with aversion, and then make accurate judgments.
Ask the other party to take the initiative. Love cannot be a one-sided thing.
It is very important that the habitual instructions will achieve the next instruction subconsciously. This rule also exists in sales.
Strengthening mechanism
Conditional rewards, no unconditional accommodation
Mainly physical objects, supplemented by virtual objects
Behavioral rewards are mainly used, language and words are supplemented
Emotional push and pull reinforcement
The push and pull of interactive emotions heat up the relationship. The push and pull of misunderstanding and contact lead to the conclusion of feelings. The pressure of the external environment and the reality of the push and pull merge deeply. The push and pull relationship of both parties is reorganized and stabilized during the hell period.
The gradual intimacy atmosphere and kino foreshadowing strengthen the other party to slowly adapt.
Window identification (external)
definition
Metaphor: egg shell, egg white, egg yolk, flame under door
To see the fire in the other person’s heart (to determine the amount of energy)
Girls call boys window and its size
Boys have a need for girls
In first love, both men and women have their own windows.
Window shape recognition
window form
Language content Tone Environmental space Time period (private after 10pm)
Emotion eyes expression action distance
Whether there are feelings, emotions, or good feelings, you can directly analyze them through their every move.
Window judgment is a very important point.
Window size judgment
Window level: coquettish---rejection
Window value scoring: 10 points for ambiguity, 6 points for standard, 0 points for rejection
Timetable Time planning After 10 o'clock is the ambiguous stage
Sense of need = maximized window. Girls must respond if their sense of need is exposed.
Long gaze time = big window
judge
Initialization scene
relationship status
window size
emotional value
How big is the window = how much action is put into the window (soi or intimacy simulation)
ambiguity attack
Follow the topic. Words imply = you can advance or retreat.
Scenario simulation of close relationship, fuzzy trial, advance and retreat, push and pull
It implies ambiguity and can advance or retreat
Scenario mode (from scratch)
Advance two, retreat one, tear down walls and open windows
Ambiguity soi is advanced flirting
Character frames push and pull and maintain balance
Balance weight, advance and retreat, advance and retreat rhythm
Accumulation level = attack intensity = number of attack steps
During an attack, if you advance, you must retreat.
Blindly attacking will weaken the sense of atmosphere, expose goals and needs, and will be counterproductive.
Every step forward must be followed by steps back.
Advance two, retreat one, go up two, go down. This is the most formal offensive pace.
The higher the emotional value, strike while the iron is hot and advance more and retreat less. Advance 5 Retreat 1.
The size of the context chat formation window determines how many weights are placed in direct proportion
Balance of energy and heat, built-in flow balance
How big is the object's window and emotional accumulation? You need the same amount of soi
When embarrassed, change the subject promptly and take a step back
Advance and retreat at your own discretion
For invitations, soi, confessions, ambiguity can allow you to move forward or back, causing his/her misconceptions to cause psychological ups and downs. Isn’t this the atmosphere of a normal family relationship?
Emotion window recognition
her emotional needs
Humorous, happy and interesting
keep distance relaxed
Natural comfort and affinity
Polite and kind
reversal stimulus
Push and pull romance
Unreasonable curiosity
The villain complained first and was shocked
Situational Simulation Intimacy
deliberate misinterpretation
Feel the magnified comfort
Emotions are shared and gratified
Being noticed and expected
be released by feeling
pun shy
Looking at each other with heartbeats
flirting ambiguously
gender expectations
acquiesce
Anxiety Manifestation-Solution
Insufficient sense of security and fear
Poor availability and low self-esteem
Sense of need exposed and licking the dog
Humorless and boring
No emotional window, contact disgust
Aquaman refuses
low value indifference
depressed, upset
Needs hide hypocrisy
superficial appearance
indifferent serious
Tired of not expressing my opinion for a long time
Emotional intelligence avoidance
Unattractive, exposed, harassed and disgusted
Emotional caloric value judgment
Playing with friends, playing = joking, vague, careless
Momentum, aura, expression, what you do
Energy fields and mutual interference
I don’t like you, but I like myself when I’m with you
She doesn't like you, but she likes herself when she's with you
In industrial society, the emotional energy of men and women is generally very low.
Meet the needs of girls and open the window with permission
The other party's emotional window is the bargaining chip for advancement and the prerequisite for kino.
Value building (internal)
reproductive value
Evolutionary psychological mechanism of primitive society Subconscious value
Millions of years of evolution are rooted in the value imprint of the subconscious mind. Women’s subconscious triggers for mate selection.
The intensity of subconscious needs accounts for a very high proportion, reaching 80%, which directly determines women’s behavior.
alpha male
Leader reliability and security
Group leader or extremely high social value
Girls are naturally hierarchical towards men
Even if you just have a friend who looks slightly inferior to you and doesn’t have the same horns
Thousands of years ago she would look for the alpha male who would be the best for her offspring
She is the strongest leader, not a weakling, not a beta male. Her subconscious mind is naturally clear.
It’s written in their genes that girls respond to boys’ dominance.
Even if a strong man forces them to do something they don't want to do,
Women of the ancient ape-human group can only survive by following the leader, which is the optimal genetic reproduction and the subconscious imprint produced by not being eliminated.
Also extended: aura, appearance, energy, cleanliness, clothing. (Such as chasing stars; your handsomeness and beauty are irresistible)
Pre-selection mechanism
Scene of being pursued by many girls
There are many photos with girls
Liked by many women
Strong males compete for leadership
Jealousy plot and favor fighting clues
When a girl really wants you
It's when she knows that others also like you
Pursuing multiple people will greatly reduce women’s calculation of ability, love and tolerance. The mate selection switch is directly turned on by default.
caring mechanism
Pictures of caring for small animals
Who doesn't like caring people
Neediness during pregnancy evolved to naturally prefer protective males
continuation of reproductive genes
How handsome
height clean hair style clothing
hormones
family urging
Social value (current level of consciousness)
personal value
Growth
Achievements ideal
Values Competencies Disciplinary Code
Matching of three views
Sincerity
survival value
Capability business size
Rich garage
rich
Emotional value (energy value)
The ability to recognize and satisfy emotions
mood
What is love? Love = noisy
Humans are emotional animals, humans are emotional animals
Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and mobilize emotions
When you judge that the emotional value is high, you can either retreat to advance to mobilize the other party's initiative, or strike while the iron is hot to advance the relationship.
The emotions driven by happiness and sadness corresponding to the endorphins and dopamine hormones in human nature are all human emotional needs. As long as you can mobilize her happiness and sadness, it proves that you have succeeded.
The general direction is to constantly arouse emotions, cause psychological waves, and move towards intimacy between male and female friends. Because people who are insignificant to you will not cause you emotions of anger, pain, joy and joy. When he thinks or says to you that he is a good person, you have no chance; for future relationships as a couple or husband and wife, this is nothing.
Where there is a need, there is a corresponding value. People are attention animals, and what is not available is the most attractive. This is the source of emotional push and pull (negative = push, affirmative = pull)
Curiosity is the switch and root cause of emotions
Emotional mobilization and push and pull
Scenario simulation capabilities
The ability to stir up emotions; to joke, to amuse, to flirt
sense of humor
The emotions of the older generation, the emotions of other people’s relatives and friends, the description and association of scenes.
The ability to push and pull emotions
A very important point
Pushing is based on the current situation of high emotional value, and it must be pulled back later.
Take the initiative (skill)
Questioning style
How to date women
Think outside the box without strategies
How can I get this girl?
What can I do to move the situation further?
What can I do to outdo others?
What can I do to be great?
What should I do to have fun with girls?
How to get the boss
The first category is called female advantage. This woman knows what she wants, and then gives you the rest. Women are most afraid of wanting everything. I want to give up your reproductive value, and you have to serve me every day. I want your society. Value, you have to spend money on me, I want your emotional value, but you will get nothing in the end. So among these three things for a man, you can only choose one, reproductive value, emotional value, and social value, and then give him the rest. So the first one is called effort, because of a man's linear thinking, only if you think clearly, he will dare to give, and he will dare to ask.
The second one is called a shrew. You know what men need most from a woman’s value and emotional value. Why is she a shrew? If a woman can be a shrew, she must be full of charm when she is smart. So in fact, men are very simple. He is A fierce horse, right? I want to tame it, so what this woman really wants to achieve is probably two states. When he doesn’t get you, you are a smart and shrewish woman. When he gets you, the shrew suddenly No more, but I'm a bitch to others, so this will capture all the man's need for emotional value, capture this man's heart.
The third thing is to raise a child who is very like him. This is something you can express to him before you deal with the boss: If I can have a child in the future, whether it is with you or not, I hope that he will be like you, like a man. . I think when a man hears this kind of words, he is like a leader. What kind of person does the leader like the most? Someone who looks like him. The same goes for men. The wife he likes the most must have raised his children to be exactly like him. So if you want to truly bind a person for a long time, the child is the key, and the core of the key must be exactly the same as the teeth of your lock.
Opening windows, advancing and retreating = building relationships
soi hint (from dark to light)
suggestion mechanism
Keyword hints for intimate relationships
Intimacy relationship simulation between boyfriend and girlfriend
Before you become a boyfriend, you must always say the word "boyfriend"
virtual role play
language latent frame
Physical and mental past reality approaches
Maintain the role-playing framework and move back
Scenario simulation relationship switching
Physical behavior reflects attitude and sincerity
SOI hint
soi, sweet, greasy, coquettish, hint, transfer
soi chatting action is energetic, expressive and interesting, and creates a sense of intimacy
"Miss you" Use retreat to advance, whet your appetite and grasp the rhythm
Girls need masks. Provide steps if necessary.
Comfortable flirting, sexual innuendos, naughty jokes, a little soi = energy boost, teasing
Need to lay the groundwork and energy in place
The emotional value of self-perception is in place and immediate offensive action is taken to avoid regrets.
Understanding Intelligence Intelligence Analysis Strategy Offense
The general direction of chatting is security and comfort - switching to intimacy
Window identification makes no mistakes and has a positive attitude. The thread leads all the way to intimacy!
Large window - good mood - high popularity value. Accumulate advancement or test advancement.
joke
pun test
Amplify the energy of jokes and create mood swings
Increase the sense of the image
Emotional arousal
Observe and grasp, accumulate feelings, advance or retreat
Pragmatic exaggeration, vague temptation, emotional push and pull
Differences between men and women
When your partner enters an intimate relationship with you, there is no one else in her eyes. She will have a surge of emotions for you that she won’t be able to get rid of. Especially for first love, your dedication and sincerity will be engraved in her heart forever.
Men are easily attracted and easily discouraged, women are slow to warm up and difficult to let go.
It’s best for men to think like women when dealing with women
Emotion kino=upgrade relationship
Kino means physical contact
In logical foreshadowing emotional state
Same as above ↑ Grasp the sense of propriety in advance and retreat
Step by step kl to let her adapt and prevent harassment
When you feel a slight emotional connection, kino immediately - key point
kino is the strengthening and upgrading of emotional resonance
Let the other party gradually adapt to their own kino
And guide the next step based on the girl's physical coordination with kino.
Emotions in place = Kino is a must
Accidental type Social type Etiquette type (judgment of scenes such as crossing the road and climbing a mountain) Ambiguous type (judgment of emotional value)
Entering the ambiguous stage
Kissing, just close to the mouth to see the reaction
Sequence: Holding hands, kissing TD
Holding hands = iconic confirmation of relationship Key Points
If you have a good impression and progress to intimacy (holding hands and kissing), it must not exceed 2 months.
Difficulty ranking: TD holding hands kissing
Anticipating long-term relationships must slow down the pace of entering the TD stage
Silly taboo
The window is not open to stimulate emotions
The mood has not reached Kino yet
Emotions are in place but not upgraded
TD
TD three elements (conditions)
adult-minded
voluntary
The scene is private
When the three conditions of TD are met
Hesitate first and refuse to show respect for a long-term relationship. Don’t be too quick.
Stay very close, but do not take action (pause and wait, retreat to advance) to see how the subject responds
Silence When the subconscious emotional value accumulates and reaches a certain level...then it will be natural...
...TD
Essence: Impressed by sincerity and character, skills and routines ultimately come down to form
Emotional push and pull
Push it out, pull it back, ripples, put an end to the ordinary
Emotional reversal pull push
Create disappointment, reverse hope, unexpected surprise
Push it down and pull it up
Scene push and pull of virtual relationship between men and women
Emotional push and pull builds romance and switches relationships
The roller coaster emotional experience creates unextricable emotions
Increase implementation, quantitative changes lead to qualitative changes
Emotional sublimation
Psychological research has discovered a pattern: daily interactions bring people closer, and key events sublimate feelings. We have known each other for more than ten or twenty years, got to know each other, and helped each other. We are very close, but we always feel that there is a window, which has not been broken. We are not brothers in life and death, not revolutionary comrades, we are our own people, then It's because only daily interactions can bring people closer together, without key events, and the relationship has not been sublimated. You must find key events to sublimate the relationship. So if you look carefully, all the beautiful love stories throughout the ages took place on the battlefield, in the train station, or in front of the hospital bed, because there were key events in that place. The study found that there are several key events, the first is festivals, the second is birthdays, and the third is sick days. You should show up and communicate during festivals, and you should show up and communicate during birthdays. Therefore, I particularly support our classmates. We celebrate birthdays together. This is particularly helpful for sublimating relationships. There is also the need to show up and communicate when you are sick. There is a classmate or comrade beside you, and he suddenly.
When you say you are sick, you must show up at this time. After you show up, offer condolences, care, bring some gifts, and chat for half an hour. If you show up once, the emotional effect can last for a year. Hey, you don’t need to care every day. , communicate every day, but the critical moment must appear, so you see we see this scene among young people, the little girl has a cold and fever, and then calls the boy to say.
I am sick.
Guys, what does this mean? Come on, I'll give you a chance. I'm a straight guy. I took the phone and said that I'm sick, talk less, drink more hot water, and go to bed early. I went to class, and I just missed the opportunity. People say you have to show up quickly when you're sick, and express your feelings quickly. I rushed downstairs to buy breakfast. I bought milk, bread, tea and eggs. Over there, I quickly went to the drugstore to buy some medicine. You said, teacher, I don’t know what disease he has. What disease he has is his problem. Whether to buy it or not. The medicine is your problem. If you buy the wrong one and come back a second time, it shows your sincerity, right? I bought one hand first, bought the same medicine in the morning, and ran upstairs. Everyone, there are ten floors in total. Should you take the elevator or run up? It’s too tiring to run up, and it’s not sincere to take the elevator. You see, some students know how to take the elevator to the eighth floor and run up the remaining two floors. Hey, this scale is just right.
Ah, running is too tiring, it is not conducive to expressing feelings, and it also damages the image, so I sit on the eighth floor. According to the company, some students can sit on the sixth floor, and some students can also sit on the ninth floor. Then, take this I ran into the ward in a hurry. When I entered the ward and saw him suffering, I saw him suffering. What was the first thing you had to do? Apologize, I'm sorry, it's all my negligence, right? I didn't remind you to wear more clothes yesterday, and seeing that you looked bad, I didn't even think about letting you drink some Tong Ren Tang cold medicine. You see, the situation is like this now. It's because I wasn't careful. Don't worry, I will definitely pay attention to this issue next time and never let you be hurt again. Hey, hey, don't you see this relationship has been established? The student told me, teacher, you are so experienced, you have so much experience, you can teach me how to chase that girl. I said shut up, am I more experienced? I obviously have a lot of theories, but you all are very theoretical when it comes to emotional issues.
A lot of theory is a matter of level, and a lot of experience is a matter of character, right? We only have theory, we have no experience. Remember, in the workplace, in the world, and in the process of interpersonal relationships, if you want to talk about feelings, you can only talk about theory and never experience. We have some and so on. , that gay man, right? To that one is the new college student in the unit, bah bah bah bah, right? He talked endlessly about his emotional experience, right? He talked about it quite well, and the key point was quite right. , you are calling yourself a waste of martial arts, you will become pious and willing to degenerate. You must not talk about experience, you can only talk about theory, right? We only have theories, we are all simple people, and we have little experience. You see, everyone’s theories have improved, right? Hey, it has to be like this. You have to show up on holidays, birthdays, and sick days. You have to express yourself and show your attitude. If you show up once or twice, he may be grateful for a whole year. very.
Yes, I will be able to identify with you for half my life. This is particularly important. Therefore, at this critical moment, one is a holiday, one is a birthday, and the other is illness.
Daily relationship methods
Take TD as the purpose (the purpose determines the result)
Dash Game PUG
opening
Start the interaction with a familiar or practiced conversation piece
Contact her with the behavior and language of her boyfriend
False time limit FTC
non-directional opening
A false statement or behavior that implies that you have to go somewhere else rather than stay
To reduce the awkwardness of contact with strangers
negative
Compliments along the way will be met with negation.
Denying the other person’s details means you don’t give her the chance to deny you.
a seemingly random comment or behavior
It implies that you are not sexually interested in the other person
Negative is a negative comment or sarcasm
Indicators of no interest
No shortage of the opposite sex
Suppress, deny, isolate and turn around, and give certain sweetness and protection.
Push and pull create anxiety and resolve anxiety
Taking advantage of insecurity
Challenge her to give her a try
When small flaws are used to penetrate her fragile psychology, the initiative is transferred.
Use feelings of loss and lack of confidence to reverse push and pull
Qualification
Getting someone to work for your approval may be just a small thing
Express that they must meet your standards and prove themselves
It's to make her focus on you
You have to reward her for actually doing it
Comfortable environment
Transition to a comfortable environment
Comfort is a natural stage of development
Create an emotional connection and then a physical one
When you feel that emotional connection
That's when there's intimate contact
If you don't have intimate contact, you will pay the price
abc must be achieved
Future plan
Although there are always obstacles
There are many stages to face
But we must always move forward and keep getting closer
lure
Pure high-value display, even if it is nihilistic
Create an atmosphere of pure attraction
Foreplay is just a natural stage
LMR
last minute resistance
The point of no return before TD
When the other party has consequences, the anxiety continues
The worst thing you can do is overreact
Sometimes she is just observing whether your emotional system is stable
You have to understand the difference between resistance and symbolic resistance
Maybe she just needs to take her time
Will she really let you dominate her?
Her logic may raise some objections
Even though she was already very excited, her hormones were released uncontrollably.
Her consciousness could no longer cover up her subconscious impulses but she tried her best to dominate the reaction.
Of course you have to build up the tension gently and slowly and then escalate it again
You have to look forward to the final resistance LMR
TD
Each of the above steps is enough, boom, the program TD is achieved
Girls who are not very interested in you
Fuck her bullshit
They have no idea what they want
You have to show them what they really want
The mobilized subconscious emotions have controlled thoughts and behaviors
Abandon conscious resistance and directly target women’s subconscious needs
terminology
1.AI (Approach Invitation) Invitation to strike up a conversation (a strange female gives PUA some hidden indicators of interest, giving PUA the opportunity to get to know her.——
2. Accomplishment Introduction Introduction of your strengths or achievements from a third party will be more effective than talking to yourself, usually by a wingman.
3.AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) Men who don’t understand how women’s emotions work. He usually obeys the words of women and blindly praises them to the sky, but is regarded as a "good guy" or a "good guy" without knowing it. He can usually be found alone in a nightclub, drinking too much and not daring to act.
4.ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) anti-slut defense mechanism: Women are interested in you, but they are resistant because they don’t want to bear the charge of being slutty and casual.
5AA (Approach Anxiety) Approach Anxiety: Fear of rejection by the other party when striking up a conversation, so do not dare to strike up a conversation.
6.Bounce transition: Take girls from one place to another.
7.Hockey "Hockey" is the PUA's secret code during the game. It is used to tell the wingman your target. It actually means "bed girl" (the girl you want to sleep with).
8. Cat String Theory Cat String Theory uses push and pull tactics on girls’ psychology, that is, hot and cold tactics.
9.CT (Compliance Test) Compliance Test is a technique that women often use to test men’s compliance, but PUA is used to control the progress of the game.
10. Congruence Test: The woman on the scene uses intentional or unintentional screening behaviors to determine whether a man can properly provide for and protect her and her children.
11. Conspiracy: A shared framework between you and your target, characterized by intimate jokes, nicknames, and a growing sense of connection.
12. Decimal Rating Scale is a decimal evaluation system that evaluates women from 1 to 10. 1 is the lowest and 10 is the highest.
13Disarming: By denying the target, you temporarily remove yourself from the threat in the eyes of the target's friends.
14.DHV (Demonstration of Higher Value) shows high value and lets women see that you have high survival value.
15DLV (Demonstration of Lower Value) shows the opposite of DHV of low survival value.
16. FTC (False Time Constraint): Pretend your time is limited and make the girl think you won’t stay long.
17Frame is used to shape your ideal woman.
18Freeze-Out: Sudden withdrawal (not necessarily indifference) and disinterest, used to punish women for inappropriate behavior.
19 Friend Zone: When women get used to your comfort for too long, they will be unwilling to have further relationship breakthroughs with you.
20Game game is the whole process of picking up girls.
21Grounding Sequence background implantation provides the target with the background story of your current situation so that she can identify with you more.
22Hired Gun A woman hired for her beauty at the place of encounter, such as a waitress, dice girl, or promotional model.
23IOI (Indicator of Interest) Indicator of Interest. Women often use body language to express their interest in men, but PUA can in turn use IOI to contain women.
24IOD (Indicator of Disinterest) indicator of disinterest, the opposite of IOI.
25internalization Internalization refers to mastering a technology to the point where it becomes instinctive.
26Investment Investment refers to the time and effort women spend on you.
27Kino Body Contact Body contact is the key to the entire game.
28Kino EscalationKino upgrade upgrade of physical contact.
29LMR (Last Minute Resistance) A woman’s last resistance when she is about to have sex with you.
30Alpha Male Male leader Elite, male leader.
31Lock-in Prop is used to keep girls in the group.
32Neg Suppression Suppression, a negative response to women. Usually refers to a girl who "feels particularly good about herself" (something that does not offend the girl, but makes her laugh).
33Nice Guy Good Guy Card Nice Guy, a female evaluation of a male who has been classified as a friend zone.
34Obstacle Obstacle, usually refers to the light bulb next to the target.
35Opene opening remarks are the opening remarks for picking up a conversation.
36Peacocking Pretending to be a peacock, using a slightly exaggerated charm to attract people with different surnames.
37Pickup pick up a conversation
38PUA (Pick Up Artist) is a person who specializes in the art of attracting.
39Preselection Preselection, when women see that you have been selected by other women, is a strong stimulus that touches women's instincts.
40Rationalization Rationalization, women need reasons to justify their actions.
41Routine routine moves, tricks
42Set combination
A unit that describes the number of people, one girl = single group, two girls = duo, a combination of men and women = mixed group...
43Seven-Hour Rule
The seven-hour rule refers to the time when a woman and a man enter into a relationship, usually within seven hours.
44SOI, (Statement of Interest) Statement of Interest
A clear verbal statement showing your growing interest in the goal.
45Social ProofSocial Proof
Social proof, the positive recognition of you from your social circle.
46Three-Second Rule The 3-second rule means that the PUA must act within 3 seconds after discovering the target.
47Wingman Wingman Partner, comrade, wingman, PUA assistant during the game.
Going in the opposite direction
Full of lies, correct behavior, purpose-oriented thoughts
Until RSD started disrespecting and belittling women’s personality
Only the pleasure of physical conquest remains
Moral slump, hovering near legal boundaries
The stronger the routine and purpose, the more the sincerity becomes diluted, a natural contradiction.
Women who have no idea of one-night stands will be very proactive after TD
This is a TD method that has no emotional basis and is simply the result of instinct.
Because the starting point is that the character has problems and cannot withstand consciousness awakening and result orientation.
Even the founder/company organizer of PUA was not spared
Lies and routines, ruthless processes, emotionless players, loveless pursuit, procedural intimacy, annihilation of humanity
PUG poisoners are all conscious and purposeful deceivers.
It goes against the original intention of experiencing love together.
The purpose of techniques is to break down barriers
Maybe routines can help you find the meaning of life
Allows you to experience things that pursue growth
Don’t forget your true heart and the most basic boundaries - only a positive relationship will lead to a happy harvest
long term relationship
Marriage View
Marriage requires short-sightedness. If you have a fiery eye, don't get married. Love is not about staring at one person, that is going to jail.
You are not a police officer, and your partner is not a criminal. If you always find him to be too lazy, it means that you are too focused on your partner.
Pay too much attention to your partner's life, so you can always find him deserting,
We must have confidence in our partners. Both the person and the bank card are in your hands. What substantial harm will it cause to you? What can't be tolerated?
Being on a business trip is a business trip. Don't associate it with cheating. Those who can travel have discovered it long ago. Those who can't travel either don't have travel expenses or are in love with home. They lie in your arms and think wildly. What can't you tolerate?
Loyalty is a kind of self-discipline, it is not your responsibility.
A good marriage is when you are mentally prepared. He has the right to get off at any time, but he never leaves. He is tied up and cannot get off to prove that he loves you. Or is he reluctant to get off after seeing the scenery all the way? Can prove his love.
Marriage is a choice. The most valuable thing is not that we have chosen each other among many choices, but that no matter how long it takes, we will still choose each other among many choices.
cycle
Start with appearance, focus on talent, and be loyal to character
Movie plot logic: getting acquainted (breaking down walls to pursue) emotions and intimacy →
His character is not good. The more he describes it, the darker he becomes. Expose it and we will never get along until death.
Misunderstanding, pain, self-change, positive behavior, resolving misunderstanding (active reality push and pull), happy ending
(The trick of endorphins in hormones in the body can make people indulge in pain and be unable to extricate themselves)
Entering the realistic stage of marriage-hand in hand
honeymoon period
Too much is too little, things will turn to their extremes, return to peace
hell period
The pain caused by environmental changes and in-depth understanding of the disgusting part is also a normal phenomenon in the development of a relationship. It must go through stages and necessary processes. Long-term relationships require this kind of psychological push and pull to strengthen.
normal quiet period
You cannot ignore the emotional needs of the other person and need rational thinking for self-growth and communication.
Contact period, love period (heaven), running-in period (hell), plateau period (maturity), the ability to carry a relationship
From another aspect, marriage is also a form of helping to get through the period of hell.
In your eyes: It’s that person, not that person, or that person; the person in the front and the person in the end are the same person, but they have changed through evolution. Affirm, negate and affirm the other party (the law of negation of negation)
married family
The more I despise my husband, the harder it will be for my husband to live well. The more I bear him in front of my children, my children will be like him in the future. Then I can’t divorce him. I can only hope that he will be well. I can’t hope that he will be well. It's bad for him. My curse must be that he gets better and better, not worse. So after she learns this theory, she won't have the nerve to try to suppress her husband, because if she sleeps next to her husband and keeps a straight face, she will always be dissatisfied. To be honest, there is a living, breathing and talking female ghost around here, with red teeth and white teeth. It is difficult for this man to develop, so she has to understand that women make a family prosperous, women are wealth, and women are feng shui. That’s how it came about,
I have to praise him, I have to admire him, I have to praise him, I have to encourage him, I have to support him, because it is more important for him to be strong than me. Once you understand this theory, your home will become better and better.
Framework Push and Pull = Long-term Relationship
The bright frame and bright principle are equivalent to the constitution, targeting his pampering, indulgence and harm to himself. Just giving in and licking will also reduce your own attractiveness. Bright Sword This is also part of enhancing the appeal.
content
Career growth always comes first!
The standard for men is that career comes first and feelings come second. This order cannot be reversed.
I reject! Doubtful Obsessive Dislike
I can have it! beautiful kind supportive
Acknowledge yourself, express yourself, I can have it
Have the bottom line principle and be in a leadership position
There is no bottom-line accommodation, no rewards and punishments without justification.
Judgment of Tone, Attitude and Status - Whether the Framework Template Standard Violates the Constitution
Boundary Awareness Always Show the Constitution
Positive and negative energy is the fundamental core
30-year-old framework, 40-year-old constitutional amendment, 50-year-old mentality
nature
Binary - soft and hard, strong and weak, stop and continue
The appeal of a strong framework will not be lost, but its availability will be lost.
The availability of weak frameworks will not be lost, but the attractiveness will be lost.
The frame is lost and the attraction is lost.
Frame collision shows confidence, obedience test, prize distribution, rejection of frame compromise
Strengthening Principles of Framework Judgment
The framework is right and efforts are meaningful
business
Establish and maintain the framework
good or bad judgment
Use both soft and hard methods
The collision of strength and weakness: the attitude a man should have
Frame awareness at critical moments
frame collision
Emotional control
degree of self-emotional control
Control your emotions and do what you should do
maintain balance
Which framework to use where
Frame collision handling method
Increased sense of value and attractiveness
Being able to stand or kneel doesn’t mean that you can’t stand if you want to.
Keep the red line of the frame
What is number one? Career growth always comes first!
Sexual resource blackmail and threat
response
Emotional blame, hope deprivation → insecurity, care
Express fatigue and distress index
Release fragile hope → test emotional manipulation, obedience test, attention
The result is that the original erroneous frame is destroyed, the frame is inverted, and the frame is advantageous to oneself.
hell period
Emotions start from scratch, from shallow to deep, and reach the peak of emotions. The situation of love, friendship and conflict is the inevitable result of excessive emotional development.
Transformation from emotional instinct-oriented love to result-oriented marriage
Availability is full score, attractiveness drops rapidly, and the party with high emotional value (the woman) will naturally magnify the other party's flaws, causing dissatisfaction and resistance.
In this situation, even if you get married in the heaven stage, you will inevitably enter the hell stage.
In an intimate relationship, trying to change the other person is the beginning of a nightmare and a period of hell.
General process
There is heaven and hell on earth, do what you don’t want others to do, try to change yourself
Because it is difficult to change oneself, the hope of changing others will be in vain.
Girls bring up problems to help promote self-growth
Don’t blame the mirror when you are dirty, be strict with yourself and treat others with kindness, mature charm, rich people’s thinking
An event has a protagonist carrier, which must have two aspects: the event itself and the way to handle the event.
The way you handle a problem can be more emotionally damaging than the event itself
The other party's wrong way of handling the problem 1 Self-carrying problem 2 Be sure to correct the other party's wrong way of handling the problem
Resolving the misunderstanding, maintaining the framework, adjusting the perspective of looking at the problem correctly, and handling the problem in a mature way
Happiness and pain will make you change yourself
The painful grind of building a long-term relationship
Loss of self creates a sweetheart who matches the real person
Helps growth and maturity, quarrels, torture, breakups and other frame collisions
Once you have filled the gaps through experience, you will naturally become mellow and mature. Only then will you have a sense of yourself and your true desires. Only then will you meet the truly right person.
Self-worth exists in self-inner roundness, projection and display surface construction to attract
The long-term relationship between parents affects the relationship between husband and wife and affects the relationship between parents and children.
persistence and giving up
Saying that letting go is a sign of cowardice
Even if you are injured, don't give up easily. You can pause to improve your independent self-ability, but you must persist until the end of rupture.
frame collision
Argue, tease, pull back with disillusionment
Character frame collision adjustment
Advances and retreats collide and refuse to maintain stability
Maintain a balance of attractiveness and availability
Push-pull degree ratio
push-pull compounding of verbal behavior
The whole process of random establishment and elimination of misunderstandings
Destroy the unfavorable framework, clear availability, and then rebuild the framework
Subversion and reversal of the frame, raising eyebrows to mobilize emotions, physical proximity to mobilize hormones
In reality, resolving conceptual conflicts and misunderstandings is the core of heart-drawing.
Deep level, high intensity, higher level is collision. (movie Mr. and Mrs. Smith)
Enter self-construction in advance
Improve self-energy
Creation and maintenance of personas for pain point marketing
emotional stability stable
Position the low side of the seesaw
Improve self-worth
Thought dimension
Improve and replace self-attributes
frame
Skill practice
Real-time promotion ability
Acceptance and change of one’s own shortcomings
How does a woman kill a mistress?
A smart wife will never make a fuss or hang herself against her husband. Such a wife will only make her husband tell you to jump off the building quickly. If you jump earlier, he will finally be free. When a smart wife encounters a problem, she makes life neither noisy nor fussy. She just does what she wants without being impatient. She will treat her husband a little better every time. Then she hypnotizes her husband every night. "Husband, I love you so much. Husband, you." You are the most handsome man in the world. No matter how I look at you, you are very handsome. My husband said go to sleep and stop talking nonsense. Husband, you are so handsome. You are so handsome among all the men in the world. Moreover, my husband also discovered that all the women in the world actually love me. All other women just play for fun. I I think men like you are reliable. Men who are not carefree are not men, but men who are carefree are smart men who know who is bigger and who is second. They know who is the real home and are the most powerful. .
Husband, I think you are so amazing. You are so great. It won’t be long after a while. Because a man is very tired and stressed. If you keep annoying him, he will want to stay away from you. If you talk to him like this , he felt that his husband and wife really understood him and understood him very well.
So for a smart woman, taking a man is like walking a dog. He needs to go out for a while, so you can take him out for a while. After a while, he will be honest when he comes back. There is no way around this, why? Because a man wants this thing, and he also knows that it is not good, but don’t forget that he is a man, and his nature has been determined for hundreds of millions of years, because his job is to carry on the family line and constantly look for the next one, because because of him To reproduce, he doesn't know if this one can be his, because in ancient times, he was a hybrid. He doesn't know if his species will survive, because he will keep looking for the next one. His subconscious cannot control this. This is not something his consciousness can control. But you female compatriots also know it in your hearts. Don’t talk about men, women are the same. And then, in fact, as for women, her nature is to do Well, he is guarding this one, because why, because he is guarding the one that has already produced results, and the male is constantly looking for the next one, because he does not know whether this one can stay. Look at animals, you can If you look at them one by one, you can see people when you study animals, so watch more TV and watch the animal world. By watching the animal world, you can see through human nature.
Because all the books in the world are written by people with their own subjective consciousness. He can only represent himself, not all mankind. If you look at the media now, do you find that there is no such thing in the West? As long as they are Chinese, they will rebel against China. They will immediately find that there is no right or wrong in the world. They are just some people. A small group of people said those venting words in a historical period. That's all. Human beings can never wake up. Human beings can never wake up. That day, mankind is over. Compared with nature, all of us are childish. Compared with the universe, we are all ignorant. Therefore, when humans think, God laughs, regardless of Jesus, Buddha, or Allah. They all tell us this, when you see through that human nature, you will naturally stop being crazy and engage in the messy things in the family every day. Only if you see through him and control him, you will be the master. Therefore, women can achieve two realms, one is to act like a little woman and make people love them, and the other is to be the chairman of the board and control men. The man is the president, and the woman will always be the chairman.
Because the son you give birth to will always be his, and he is old anyway. You rely on your son, but he does not. He only relies on you, and then you rely on your son. So why are women confident? Because all men are born of women. Do you think why men like to argue and fight? A person who likes to conquer and fight is actually a person with low self-esteem. Why do men have such low self-esteem? Because a man has to conquer the world to prove that he is capable. The woman said it doesn't matter, I just want to conquer you. Men are trees and women are the earth. You see, people say mother earth. How many of you say father earth? For example, there is no such thing as Yellow River Mother, not to mention Yellow River Father. Because of the earth, you put everything you eat, drink, and poop on the earth. The earth never vents. The earth carries everything, silently.
So the mother is loving and the mother is broad. What is the mother that it can tolerate? So the mother's greatest wisdom is tolerance. Therefore, the softer the land, the stronger the trees growing on it will be. As a result, you will become a cement floor, a dead ghost, and no grass will grow. The highest level of a woman is that of the chairman of the board. She can control men because she is tolerant. To put it bluntly, men are still children until they are 80 years old.
How to save a man
Lost in self and despair
High cost, do your best to obey fate
High ineffectiveness. Broken mirror is difficult to round and will eventually have cracks.
Completely opposite. Please press the pause button.
Suspend emotional influence on disruptive behavior and eliminate harassment
Keep yourself calm and rebuild yourself as a prerequisite
Arrange time for self-recharge as a prerequisite
Sustaining self-agency self-building prevention and treatment
The results of what you do are positive and happy
Core Principle: Recover the lost self, and the former sweetheart, compare the soul and the shell
Summary of push-pull principle
push-pull principle
real carrier
Based on all, internal and external: people, things, keywords, topics, events, phenomena, processes,
Based on the positive and negative aspects of the other party: emotions, windows, attitudes, requirements,
Based on the requirements of self-construction, only the requirements of the constitutional framework remain.
Dialectical Relations
Push and pull are based on the two-sided nature of the carrier, which is a dialectical relationship that distinguishes and opposes each other and transforms and unifies each other.
Dialectical relationship push and pull = ideological tools that one can master.
Dialectical push and pull includes advance and retreat, affirmation and denial, agreement and rejection, push away and pull back,
Where there is affirmation, there must be negation, where there is push, there must be pull, and where there is advancement, there must be retreat.
Early push and pull
Emotion and concentration principles
Principle: Curiosity is concentration, the cause of human motivation, the switch that leads to direct human action.
Emotions are like a piece of 4A paper. Whether it is black and red 4A paper with positive and negative emotions, the higher the emotional value caused by curiosity and concentration. This piece of 4A is pulled in front of your eyes from a far away position, a secondary position, and sticks to your eyes, blocking all events and everything, becoming the most important, unable to distinguish primary from secondary, and your thoughts cannot escape from it. Inextricable.
Emotions are focused and drawn into manifested phenomena, scenarios: depression, love, marital conflicts, pain, dilemmas, seriousness, addiction, attraction, television.
emotional push and pull
Turn on curiosity = let the other party have emotions = put an emotional switch on the action = you are everything to it at a certain moment = the other party's direct action = successful invitation
How to set expectations
I don’t know how the performance will be tomorrow
What’s delicious in the newly opened store?
How sincere I am, you will know when you meet me
You can't feel me unless you're with me. .
rational push and pull
Principle: Rational thoughts are based on low emotions, so the only principle is to turn to emotions and increase the emotional value.
Facing the other party’s unreasonable emotions, soul torture, and waste testing
Directly avoid, misinterpret, and push away. To avoid frontal hardness and emotional cooling, enliven the atmosphere through techniques.
Method: Describe values, draw a pie, jump out of the frame, give examples and compare, and show sincerity.
Premarital Methodology: Emotions Are Real
push and pull within marriage
rationality and framework
1self
principle
First, development is always self-development, based on self-internal contradictions.
Second, all problems can be summarized as internal problems
in principle
The construction of one's own constitutional framework is the most important, more important than the relationship between husband and wife. Because only in this way can we handle the relationship between husband and wife more proactively and better by putting aside the secondary, or by pushing and pulling.
2 couples room
Principles of the relationship between husband and wife and other relationships: The relationship between husband and wife within marriage is more important than: the relationship between superiors and subordinates, and the relationship with friends and colleagues.
Family harmony and the relationship between husband and wife are the core. Only by harmony between husband and wife can we be worthy of the older generation and the younger generation.
Secondary relationships must give way to primary relationships.
The principle of foreign affairs is not to disrupt normal communication and harmony between husband and wife.
It is normal for foreign affairs to cause conflicts between husband and wife, because of pressure and too many things.
In other words, the other person has a small problem, but this is not the reason for you to get angry based on the other person's problem.
The result of conflicts between husband and wife caused by secondary relationships comes from the fact that the emotional partner is irrational and not generous enough; and the way the partner handles the problem is not based on the principle of maintaining the relationship between husband and wife first.
Principle of the relationship between husband and wife: All conflicts between husband and wife must be based on errors in two aspects:
The first problem itself is wrong, such as smoking, foot washing, spending money indiscriminately, heterosexual gatherings and other incidents themselves.
The second way to deal with the problem is wrong, 1: Face the incident based on emotion, attitude, and method; 2: Be restrained, confirm, forgive, and have no ulterior motives; 3. Based on the relationship between husband and wife Face this incident in a peaceful manner.
Based on the first and second aspects, conflicts arise. This is the fundamental reason why both parties to the conflict are responsible for this conflict.
Methodology:
The right or wrong of the problem itself occurs based on external environmental conditions;
Trivial things are unavoidable, emotions are unavoidable, it is normal.
Without using consciousness to explore the other side of emotions, it is easy to follow the side of the emotional one and continue to ferment emotions.
The right or wrong way to deal with problems occurs based on one's own internal basis;
The right or wrong way of handling a problem is more important in determining the outcome of the situation than the right or wrong of the problem itself.
This requires both parties to have rational perspectives, wisdom and choices.
Solutions to conflicts caused by shrewish emotions
Use the primary and secondary frameworks of secondary relationships, foreign affairs, and the relationship between husband and wife, and use this as a framework to push and pull rationally.
Emotional vixen performance:
Yelling, making troubles unreasonably, complaining, and complaining about the other party's attitude
Just collapse your consciousness and get rid of the grievances and anger in your emotions.
Emotions happen in the moment
No matter what people, things or phenomena or processes we encounter, this is cause 1. Cause 1 is neutral, your concept is cause 2, and the intersection of cause 1.2 produces an emotional effect at the moment.
Based on the current emotional state of the problem itself without knowing it, there is no possibility of rational choice. You can only follow your own emotional outburst, there is no other way, that is, there is no choice, choose 0.
Choosing 0 will hurt the people who are closer to you and the foundation of your relationship.
Based on the current awareness of one's own emotions, rational choices are possible. Because rationality is based on weight, such as I-father, I-junior, I-husband and wife. Based on the comparison of relative weights, the choice of preservation relationship 1 is obtained.
Option 1 can preserve the relationship between husband and wife and has some weight.
Faced with everything objectively, emotions are inevitable. Whether you have a clear choice or whether you let your emotions continue to ferment reflects your understanding and attitude towards the nature of marriage.
Tolerance is magnanimity, and magnanimity is based on the collapse of consciousness of one's own emotions. Your magnanimity will have rational results, the results you really want.
Believe in yourself and the other person: there will be choices, there will be room for others, choices are wisdom, and choices are rationality.
Avoid it first, wait for calmness, clarify the frame, push it out based on reason, and then pull it back.
Based on the thinking tool of dialectical relationship, we first oppose the negation of one part, and then agree to affirm the other part.
Post-marriage methodology: Emotions are fake